Daily Post--1/4/08

Lea, I think this is a great question! I find my marriage is much stronger since surgery (could be in part to the Love and Respect conference we attended in October-the 4th one!) I know my hubby finds me attractive, and always has, and continues to build me up and compliment me daily. We were very strong before surgery and he knows nothing is going to change no matter what my size is. Holly

I only wish I could say.........lol. I was divorced in December 2004 after being married for 26 years. I have not been in a real relationship since. I haven't really felt "ready" to be in one (thought I was soon after the divorce, that was a big mistake****il just recently. Now it is just a matter of finding a decent man. I often wonder how difficult that will be. Before surgery they were critical of us for being overweight. Now I hear from others that many men are critical of women who have had WLS and had to "resort" to the easy way out or won't take the chance with a WLS person because they could "get fat again". I really want to believe that it won't be as difficult as I have let myself believe. Sally

I have never been married or in a long-term relationship. I recent went on a date! It didn't work out, but that's OK- it was good practice. I am more confident now.

Right now... I have a marriage that most wives... wouldn't understand. I said most because i know there are other Military wives on this board too. But the thing is... this is the 2nd time since we've been married (1 year) that he has been on deployment. So he doesn't have that misfortune of seeing other guys flirt wth me now, etc. It hasn't changed our marriage at all. When he is back from deployment (hopefully june) we will see what happens. Hopefully we stay strong. Krissy A.K.A NavyWife25

I was single when I had the surgery and still am, so I can't answer the question directly. However, I am hoping that the confidence I am gaining as I lose weight and feel more and more in control of my eating and of my life will help me to some day develop a relationship with an equally confident man who is also happy with his life. We can all hope, right? ;)

My husband is very proud of what i am doing. He is very supportive and makes sure i am taking good care of myself. I am only 2 weeks out but we are having fun looking at the clothes that i will be able to wear finally. He makes me laugh because the clothes he likes are cute clothes but a little more revealing then i would ever wear before. Its nothing unflattering. He wants mne to look good and feel good so we look together. its actually alot of fun because then we both know what the other wants and is willing to see on me...lol. I can't wait to were clothes that actually fit and make me look goooooood for my husband. He isn't the jeoulose type either. he knows i love him and him alone. so to answer the question our relationship is just as strong as it was before surgery but i see it getting much stronger the more i loose. Not to mention my self esteem has already gone up several notches, which he is thrilled with.

Hi Lea, Well first let me say...My husband is a Great Guy!! I Love him with all my heart... with that being said there are things that bother me A LOT, always have, and I used to stuff my feelings down with food... now I won't... I speak my mind now so there are a few things that we need to work on... but I think it will continue to get stronger, we will be married 25 years in August. Doris

I am not currently married. I am in a ltr, and the only thing I can see, is that I do not want nothing to do with SEX... Nothing at all.. He still does and infact he wants it more.. I think its because now that I am losing and looking more womanly men are paying attetion to me and He is not to happy about that. He thinks I do not want sex with him since I want a new man,.,, WHICH is not true.. I do not want sex at all!!!.. The funny thing is, he is now on a diet and wants to look better for me.. He wants to get married in NOV, and well... I think our relationship is stronger in some areas, and weaker in others.. He is working on his self esteem now. He now wants to come home on the weekends, which he never has, he is always at his parents from friday to monday. But he wants to help me more in the home, cooking, cleaning, etc... so in that reguard its better. Its only worse since he wants sex more.. lol.. He says its cause I am sexier and he can not control himself.. lol... YEAAAA right.. Men are visual and we all know that.. lol.. not a bad thing all the time tho.. Happy new year to all... Cynthia

I think my marriage is stronger after WLS because I have learned to love myself a little more and by loveing myself i am able to accept his love better. Does that make any sense? Before WLS i hated myself and no matter how much he told me he thought i was beautiful and that he loved me no matter what I just didn't see how it could possibly be true. How could anybody love me at that disgusting weight? But now i realize he did love me before, he was always there for me then and he is there for me now too.

I have an awesome marriage. I had a VERY strong marriage pre op and its become even stronger since. I had WLS for my family ( my son and my husband). I know a lot of people do it for "me" but if I was to do it for "me" I probably would have not had the mental strength to think I was worth it. So for me its just all be a wonderful journey since and with that my marriage(and my whole family life in general) is flourishing. I married Mr. Right. He is awesome. He has been there for me literally through thick and thin. I can't imagine my life with out him (or my son). He is my rock. *huggles* Felicia =0)