Daily Post--1/4/08
well......i haven't had WLS so i can't really answer this. and, i've only lost 35lbs total so far. that's not a significant enough amount to cause problems. i do not think that me losing more will affect my marriage at all tho. well, other than me being a tad annoyed that my husband won't buckle down and lose weight too.
My husband thinks ihave changed for the worse. he feels ignored and thinks I spend too much time on here. He is at work whenever i am on, so how would he know for one, and for another...I stand up for myself more than I ever have so when he gets into one of his verbally abusive conversations with me...I shut him down and he can't say anything about it anymore.
He now had joined the mini-challenege through me at home and wants to lose so much weight by the 14th of February. HMMMMM now that i weigh less than him he wants to get with the program........
We have a good time when he is sober and decent, but other than that I would have to question things. We'll see how things pan out.
Katy
I have been dating my boyfriend now for 4+ years and I think that our relationship has gotten much stronger! With my new confidence and self esteem I want to go out more and do things with him and he is enjoying that. Eating has gotten easier as he is diabetic so we pretty much eat the same types of foods. He is happier that I am happier!
LB
I feel much more secure in my relationship, not because of anything he has done, but I finally feel good enough and have a higher self esteem. One thing of interest is i get flirted ALOT less as a thin woman... I find that crazy, but i think it is because before i needed others to make me feel good about myself and i no longer need that!
I love being married as a thin woman!
I think my relationship with my husband ( of 21 years) has gotten somewhat stronger...wasn't a problem before, even though I sometimes thought there was, but that was my insecurities coming out...now that I have so much less insecurities, I feel we get along alot better..and we're able to do more things together..
I was dievroced long before WLS and did date before I put on all the weight but never felt confident about myself til now. The surgery has made a big difference in how I look at myself and feel about my life. I think that now I feel like I can date the men I never felt I was good enough for, or they wouldn't find me attractive like the other women around them. And my relationship with friends have change also, they are always telling me how sexy and beautiful I look, now I smile and say thank you instead of feeling uncomfortable about myself image. I love me today and that's a real big change.
I think ours is about the same. We did have sex more before surgery, he says I"m bony now and it hurts when he thrusts. Guess we didn't plan for that part. And it doesn't help that my sex drive is down either.
He always checks a restaurant by me first to make sure I"ll be able to eat there. Asks if I'm taking my vitamins, that sort of thing. He doesn't want any of this going wrong, an dneither do I! lol
I think it does bother him that I enjoy going out more, with or without him. Dinner, dancing, I have even signed up to do a marathon walk and a century ride for the Leukemia and Lymphoma society. Which are things he's not used to me doing either. But he knows who I come home to, so that makes it all ok.
Denise
I'm only two months out and haven't quite lost 50 pounds yet, with that said, I can't imagine WLS having a negative affect on my marriage. I'm feeling better, happier, stronger, more at peace, so I think that can only strengthen my relationship. This is a second marriage for both of us though, and we've only been married for 4.5 years, so when we did get married we were older and we knew what we wanted in a partner.
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