OT/ Feeling like Tina from the L Word

Ok guys, I know this is way off topic here, but I had to share. Who better to share it with than you guys. So, here goes. In the last couple of episodes of the L Word, Tina has found her a man. This leaving Bett alone. My story, I have not always dated women. My first g/f was only about 7 years ago. It was a bad relationship (yes even worse than the one I have now) Anyway, since I have been dating women there are some men that I still find attractive. Well, I set up a my space account and even put that I was a lesbain or bi, I am not sure which one. Anyway, I got an email from this guy the other day. OMG, what a hottie. So for the past few days I have been corresponding (sp) with this fella. Nothing major, but he finally asked if I would like to meet and go out. Now, I have been up front with him from the start and told him that I was in a relationship and the whole nine yards. But, he still wants to meet me. My problem, I am not sure what is going on with me. Am I just really upset still about what I read on Lisa's computer. Am I feeling lonely because other than three weeks ago Lisa had not touched me or made any type of contact with me in 3 years. What is really going on. So, I come to you my family with this. I need someone to try and help me figure out what is going on with me. Should I go out and possibly have a good time and make a new friend. Or, should I not go and miss the chance of having a good time. Melissa

I honestly see nothing wrong with meeting someone new. As long as you are not going with the hopes of starting a relationship. I say that because if you are wanting to start a new relationship, you should end the one you have first(just my opinion). If you meet this guy and you find you want more than a friendship, deal with your feelings then. Be true to yourself. Do what makes you feel happy and good inside. I know that it is a hard place you find yourself in, but the best thing to do is be true to yourself. I wish you luck in your decision and I wish you the best. Take care Erin

Melissa, I dont see anything wrong with making a new friend. Just remember that a lot of folks who are looking for "friends" on the net are actually just looking to get laid. If that isnt what you want...as long as the guy understands where you are coming from, then you should be cool. If you do decide you want something more from him after meeting him, I think you should get out of the current relationship first. If you are truely unhappy in your current relationship, you might want to consider getting out anyway (I must have missed earlier posts so I have no idea what your current situation is). Lisa L. 380/350/170

Melissa, Again I am soo sorry you had to find that on your gf computer,, how disapointing,, I don't see anything wrong at all with meeting someone as a friend,, I agree with the other person, sorry can't remember who else said it,, but alot of people online are looking for sex,, now I love myspace ,, girl give me your name we can be friends on there!!! Alot of people on there are decent in my opinion but always be careful,, I think if you are looking for anything more than friends, yes you would be filling a hole you have,, Once getting out of one relationship its always good to take some time and think before getting into another relationship,, otherwise its just a rebound relationship,, I think you should decide what you want to do about your girlfriend and do it,, so you can go out and have fun girl and meet new people,, hey he can be a friend and maybe in a few weeks/months you can be more!!! Friends make the best lovers!!

WOW, you really have to do what your heart tells you to do. I am not sure if you talked to Lisa yet about what you found out, but I would start there before jumping into another relationship, wether man or female. If you are not going to be with Lisa you need to let her know that it is over so that you can begin the healing process. I think by starting a new relationship when you haven't resolved the one that you are in now, you are just asking for trouble. Melissa I think that you are moving toooo fast and that you are on the rebound right now and pissed off at Lisa. So take the time to talk to Lisa first, then let your heart mend then start a new relationship. I am here for you if you need to talk .

I have to agree with Sweety Pooh. You need to break away from and heal from this relationship before starting any new one. Doesn't matter if it is male or female. In my opinion, even if you meet him only as a friend, you could be leading him on. I wouldn't do it IMHO.