Strap on HELP!!

OK I am soooooooooo embrassed to ask these questions but hey who and where can I go other than here where people will judge me ,, I just HOPE someone will answer me !!!! Please feel free to email me privatly is don't want to answer on the board,,, Well I haven't ever used a strap on before,, I know how can I be a lesbian right!! lol,,, Well normally my partner just using there hands and that works awesome, but since I have been with my new partner and have lost weight I am not soo insecure so more and like to try new things so we thought we'd try one,, well we went to the sex shop here,, boy was that a riot!!! Dicks everyone in every size and color!!! Some plain out looked scary, I mean if they actually fit into a woman ,, thats crazy!!!! So we looked arounf for awhile, found one we liked,, **** they are expensive,, and left,, well we forgot lube!! dammit,, so we get home, of course try it out,, but can't seem to get it to work right for some reason or another,, we try several positions but dammit it doesn't want to work right,, I think it was way too small and not hard enough ,, It was some special famous porn stars one and it was really wopply , I felt like I was humping a limb dick lol ,, well also it was only 6inches and damn thats smaller than I thought,, and we needed major lube ,, so we're going to try it again sat night when she's off ,, but any tips? other than lube? thanks guys!

Thanks for the morning laugh! Don't be embarrased! Strap on's take some getting use to. At first it is akward. All I can say is.. PRATICE MAKES PERFECT! Our first one was short and too limp as well. We were experimenting like yall are and we laughed the first few times. We ended up buying another one that is longer and more stiff and it's perfect. We used lots of lube at first then we noticed the longer the foreplay and oral first, the less lube we used. If it was a little longer, you would have more to work with Have Fun! Kay

OMG, after coming back and reading what I typed, I got embarrased.

Special Kay, OMG thats soo funny!!! I was embrassed also,, but I go over to the sex before and after wls board all the time,, They are wild over there and I love it!!!!! Didn''t want to scare anyone over here though,, but come on all GLBT people are a lil wild right!!!!!! Well thanks for the advice we are going to get a bigger and better one!! And it was soo weird b/c I am always sooooooo wet I don't need anything but for some reason I wasn't ,, so were going to get some lube too, and yea I love foreplay!!!!!

Ms. Kay, You are looking mighty fine girl. Love the new pics. You can really tell a difference! Hugs, Rosa P. S. Don't be embarassed!!! LOL

Thanks Rosa I asked them to add this 2 month pic to my profile and they added it here next to my post. I hate this picture of me because I'm not smiling but I guess I'll have to deal with it. Kay

OmG dont be embaressed I love to talk about sex lol...well ive nnever had the desire to use one but i love the little smooth bullet looking vibe it just for outter stimulation. well sorry i cannot offer advice with a strap on but just support to let you know grl its ok to talk about sex!!! Take care and have fun saturday!!! Jeanette

Thanks jeanette, I want to get a bullet soo bad but she is sooo jealous of it!!!! lol I know sounds crazy but she says " you don't need to get that , I 'll do it!!" ,, shes amazing!

Good question, I love these kinda of questions, my girl and I used them not a lot but sometimes just to spice up the relationship, and longer and stiffer is the best way to go. But as Kay said forplay is the key. I love to be the cowgirl, if you catch what I am saying. But again practice makes perfect, don't be embarrased. Once you get the hang of it she will be calling your name all nite. LOL. Oh yeah as for the lube If you get her wound up enuff you won't even need it.

I know what you mean sweety pooh,,, She called me first thing this morning from work and I was like girl why are you calling me this early you know my ass isn't awake and she said I wanted to make sure you don't make plans for fri evening b/c I want to go back to Hearts and get a new toy!!! I was like OMG !!! She said that was awesome and **** if we get a better one ,it will be off the chain,, I was like damn and I didn't think it even worked out that good. But I did start playing cowgirl at the end also to try that last thing and she said damn baby I didnt know you knew how to do this!!!!!! She is going to be surprised as hell when we get the right one!!!!!!! Thanks girl and I am sorry I have been soo damn lazy to not email you and see how you were but I have been reading all the post so I could find out,, Glad your doing soo good, your girl seemed soooo sweet coming on here checking on what to do and updating us,, Thats awesome!!! Keep us updated,, I go to the doctor next week, I missed my last appt so I haven't weighed on his scale in like 5wks!! I can't wait,,