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Do you ever feel like you should be doing better than you are? Like I would have thought I would be able to do more things. I mean like walk longer than I can. Overall, I am satisfied with my weight loss, but I want to be further along. I feel bad for saying that. I have lost 87 pounds in less than 4 months and I should be thinking great, but I want more. My mom is coming in for Rhonda's surgery on April 10. I am will be happy to see her, but I worry that she will be disappointed. I had the surgery for me, but I do worry what others think. I have found myself more worried about what others think about me lately. I mean when I post something on here, I worry what people think of me and if I sounds stupid. It is not just on here. I mean I want to be liked. What do you all think? Am I a little crazy or am I normal? Well hope you are all well. Take care Erin

I do, often, feel like I should be doing better. But then I think I am doing rather well at times too. I wish that I could do more things sometimes but then I think about what I am able to now compared to before surgery. I am doing way more now than I was then. I am satisfied with my weight loss, but I can't wait to lose more, sometimes I think I should be loosing more or faster but then my partner tells me I am doing just fine and reminds me that I didn't gain It all In one day I am not going to lose It all In one day. I have always worried about what other people think about me, do they like me do they not? Now I don't care, I like me and that is all that matters really. I didn't like me before, I hated how I looked how I felt who I was, now **** em If they don't like me, I have my friends family who do, who always have regardless, I have my partner who could care less how I look or what I weigh, she loves me no matter what. I personally think you are normal, who doesn't wan't to be loved, accepted, cared about, thought about, liked, etc... take care of you - Jeremy ps - 87 lbs is wonderful and so are you!!!

I think you are doing great. I have read most of your post and it sounds like you are doing great. Thank you so much for your reply because I needed to hear some of the things you said. take care erin

Hi Erin, I am so glad you posted this. I too feel that I could be doing much better. After losing so much my first month, I am upset that it has slowed down so much. Even though I knew it would. Sometimes I feel like I am eating too much, but other times I don't feel that way. I knew this wasn't going to be easy, but I guess I just feel disappointed in myself at times. Realistically, I have lost 56 lbs. in two months. That's nothing to be ashamed about! I think most of us who have suffered with obesity have that need of wanting to be liked and accepted. That doesn't go away just because the pounds do. I would like to say that I don't give a damn about what other people think of me, but that would be a lie. I do care. Maybe one day I will care less, but it's not now. Thanks for posting this and getting me thinking! You are AWESOME...never forget that. Big Hugs, Rosa

Rosa, You are progressing wonderfully. I want to thank you for responding to my post. Knowing that others also feel the same way I have been feeling really helps me. I was not sure I wanted to write that post in the first place, I kind of felt like I was alone in my thoughts. Take care Erin

Erin, This is a GREAT post,, just this past week I haven't lost 1pd,, yep not even 1pd, and I am only 5 wks out,, OMG WHAT IS WRONG??? , my nut explains it that my body was soo used to being in starvation mode that now that I am starting on mush's it is storing everything and not letting it go ,, she says give it time and it will come also I need to be working out but my workout center is broke and my fat butt hates walking outside in the heat,, esp here in louisiana,,, But I need to step it up and I will start working out ,, I have to ,, and get some more weight off!!!

I just wanted to comment on your stall. First of all, you will start loosing again. I hit my first stall at week 3 and it lasted for almost 3 weeks. Working out will definately help so do what you can do. Just keep doing what you need to do and you will see your weight start to go down. Just wanted to let you know that it will start coming off. hang in there. Take care Erin

Erin, I know you feel frustrated sometimes. I see you every day and I am with you during all your ups and downs. I wish you could really know how proud of you I am. You are so able to do more things than you could three and a half months ago. You were able to walk through all of Walmarts yesterday when before you would just have me run in and not even get out of the car. And you have been working so hard to get everything organized for my surgery. I can hardly believe the difference in you. You are definitely becoming a new person and I am so happy for you. Just take the process one day at a time and before you know it, we will both be able to go for walks and doing things that we never thought we would. Just remind me of all of this three months after my surgery when I am feeling frustrated that I should be further than I am. You are doing a great job and I am proud and your mom will be as well. I love you and don't worry. You're a wonderful woman and everyone who knows you knows that you are wonderful. You are my angel. Rhonda