Hi guys!!! Let me introduce myself:
Hey there! My name is Connie. I am fairly new to OH. I have mostly been a lurker, reading profiles and builing on my own. I have been researching WLS for about a year and a half, but seriously considering it for about the last 12 months. I am 33 (next month) and have been overweight ALL of my life. I am a very active person (i go to the gym at least 4 times a week and still weigh 310lbs) and still have not really been able to lose as much weight as I would need to. I have lost at most about 35 pounds at any given time, but only to gain it all back plus some. Now that I am in my 30's it is even harder. I am sure you all know my plight. Well, I have made my decision to have WLS and I am ssssooo looking forward to it. I have not been approved as of yet (I am still completing the tests my PCP requires--only one more left!!! 
My girlfriend of 3 years is learning to be supportive in spite of her fears that she will lose me forever. I keep telling her that loving me BEFORE surgery and supporting me during and after means more to me than anything anyone else could give me. Besides, I would never leave a 3 year loving relationship for someone who only likes me for my looks ANYWAY!!! So, I would love to get to know some of you and your stories.... The support here at OH has already helped me so much........ Thanks everyone!
Connie
My girlfriend of 3 years is learning to be supportive in spite of her fears that she will lose me forever. I keep telling her that loving me BEFORE surgery and supporting me during and after means more to me than anything anyone else could give me. Besides, I would never leave a 3 year loving relationship for someone who only likes me for my looks ANYWAY!!! So, I would love to get to know some of you and your stories.... The support here at OH has already helped me so much........ Thanks everyone!
Connie 
Hello again Connie. Just met you in my Roll Call thread. Wanted to again welcome you, as I have seniority over you here at the board by about 3.4 seconds 
As I stated in my thread, my girlfriend is slightly fearful of the same things. She and I grew up together, we've known each other for 25 years. We've only been together as a couple for 1 year now, but the attraction to one another is something we've danced around from the moment we first met. We've both always been overweight, however, she's always been very athletic and able to keep her weight within a decent range. She very much wanted to become a police officer...and then almost 10 years ago she was a passenger in a bad car accident and it broke her back. She had to drop out of police academy, has never fully regained her physical coordination and has mourned the damage done to her body, and the limitations it's put on her life ever since. It has done a number on her self-image, as you can imagine.
While she is hugely supportive of my decision for WLS, she is apprehensive and a little self-consceince about HER weight, once I get mine under control. The positive thing is that she is able to verbalize her feelings and understands that her reservations are more about HER than ME, kwim? I am patient and supportive of her feelings, I try to keep her informed and educated. I am open with her about my reasons for wanting the surgery and she understands that it's more than a vanity issue to me. Deep down she knows I'm devoted to her and to "us", and at my ripe old age of 37, two hetero marriages and two kids later, I'm not at all inclined to "get all spruced up" and move on to play the field.
I hope that same kind of devotion keeps your relationship strong as well. With three years under your belt already you have a good foundation set to build upon. This surgery and how it can enhance your life could be a powerful tool to catapult your relationship into great new areas.
Best wishes, Violet
As I stated in my thread, my girlfriend is slightly fearful of the same things. She and I grew up together, we've known each other for 25 years. We've only been together as a couple for 1 year now, but the attraction to one another is something we've danced around from the moment we first met. We've both always been overweight, however, she's always been very athletic and able to keep her weight within a decent range. She very much wanted to become a police officer...and then almost 10 years ago she was a passenger in a bad car accident and it broke her back. She had to drop out of police academy, has never fully regained her physical coordination and has mourned the damage done to her body, and the limitations it's put on her life ever since. It has done a number on her self-image, as you can imagine.
While she is hugely supportive of my decision for WLS, she is apprehensive and a little self-consceince about HER weight, once I get mine under control. The positive thing is that she is able to verbalize her feelings and understands that her reservations are more about HER than ME, kwim? I am patient and supportive of her feelings, I try to keep her informed and educated. I am open with her about my reasons for wanting the surgery and she understands that it's more than a vanity issue to me. Deep down she knows I'm devoted to her and to "us", and at my ripe old age of 37, two hetero marriages and two kids later, I'm not at all inclined to "get all spruced up" and move on to play the field.
I hope that same kind of devotion keeps your relationship strong as well. With three years under your belt already you have a good foundation set to build upon. This surgery and how it can enhance your life could be a powerful tool to catapult your relationship into great new areas.
Best wishes, Violet 
Hello Connie my name is jeanette I live in moreno valley,really close to you,congrats on your journey to wls!my girlfreind of 9 years is very supportive,but i know alot of couples go threw some trying times threw this process,im sure your relationship will survive just keep on reassuring her ! ok feel free to email me if you want i am too in my journey to wls I have about4-5 months to go im going thru kaiser which makes us do a 24 week class before we have surgery! then after that is completed we will have surgery about 3 months after that!
Well welcome to our family!!
Jeanette 
it is very gaggy 
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