1 Month post op,dating amazing girl,people notice my weightloss

So I had my one month post op check up and I lost altogether 31lbs and my doctor was happy and so was I. I've been taking all my vitamins and I was prescribed some actigall to prevent gallstones and I'll take it for 5 months. I also got some new vitamins iron and calcitrate D. I'm going out on friday with an awesome girl she's really awesome and she wrote me this beautiful poem man I really like this girl alot she's beautiful and smart (an english major at columbia and I really hope things go further with us. Visited the old job and my ex co workers were amazed with my weight loss they were telling me to keep up with whatever I was doing cause it's working. My pants are falling off my ass so I'm assuming I went down a size and I'm losing inches. This was truly the best decision I believe I've made for myself. I'm already feeling more confident and comfortable moving around. A friend and her girlfriend invited me to dinner on saturday and I'm helping them cook but they know nothing about my surgery so I decided to just sit down and tell them when I get there before the cooking happens and then maybe I can make some lentil soup and cucumber salad for myself. They're really awesome people and I think they'll understand. My so called bestfriend has still been acting shady about my weightloss she tells me she's happy for me but then she'll say something like "I lost 70lbs babe and I didn't take the easy way out" and she's just that kind of person you know, the person who always has to have a leg up on you and it hurts cause she was a bestfriend and like a sister and when I confront her about these things she makes them seem as if they're not problems. My birthday is next tuesday and I'll be the big TWO O. No more adolescence...GOODBYE TEENAGERDOM. I just wanted to say I read all of your post and I love every single one of you guys it feels so good to come home and be here with you all. Anyway I'm getting all emotional and crap..Yeah Naima>OH alias ISha KIn(name of lesbian rap group)

Wow, Isha! 31 pounds in 31 days! How incredible is that. And a possible new love interest.... You sure gave yourself one hell of a 20 year old birthday gift!! Gifts of life, health, happiness, and a new beginning. That's fantastic!! That "best friend" that you speak of; remember something. You get to define your relationships as time progresses. Sometimes we outgrow relationships----we grow up and they stay put, or we simply go in different directions. Or, in this case, one needs to always feel superior to the other, which throws off the balance of the friendship. Friendships are based on reciprocity: both parties offering 100% honesty, loyalty, support, encouragement, and genuine desire for the other person to do whatever they need to do to be their best. If she isn't fulfilling those roles, then perhaps it's time to ponder what it is that keeps the friendship together. Sometimes we stay in relationships out of pure familiarity. We've known them so long, that they have a title, i.e.:best friend, and they keep that title, even when they are no longer earning or deserving of it. Just something to think about... You're growing up, and moving forward in your life. You deserve to be surrounded by people who support you in doing that. Take care, Jessica

Isn't it great when things start to fall in place - and I'd like to see anyone who thinks that WLS is the easy way out have the procedure themselves. And happy 20s for next week! Have fun! Charlotte

Congrats 31 pounds that it awesome, you go girl.

Isha, Girl I am so glad that things are popping for you. 31 pounds is awesome. So, you have a new sweetie. You must keep us updated on how that is going. I saw my boss for the first time since surgery yesterday, he told me that you could tell I had lost some by my face. I had not payed attention, but was glad that he noticed that. I am sorry about your friend. I hope she gets over what ever she is going through. I am just glad that her actions are not discouraging you. Hey, its also OK to be emotional. That is what we are here for. Everyone needs someone. Even if its just someone to be emotional with. Huggss girl, keep up the good work, Always, Melissa

Wonderful progess! I'm really proud of you! Jen

Hi Isha, Big time DITTO on what Jessica says. She is a very wise woman. Listen to her. I call those kinds of "friends" my "Peter Pan friends". The ones who never want to grow up. The ones who expect me to be there for them, but can not be found when I need them. The ones who feel it's all about them, and the ones who only feel good when they are knocking others down. In the last few years, I have eliminated these so called "friends". It was difficult, but I am so happy that I did it. For a long time I guess I really didn't realize I deserved better. I am so blessed in that now I am surrounded by the greatest friends in the world. They have my back, and I have theirs. They only wish the very best for me and are there to hold me up when I'm falling down. They are supportive, and loving, and they are my angels. You deserve the very best too. Don't settle for less, sweetie. Surround yourself with people who honor you and love you and are there for you no matter what. Happy, happy, happy birthday. You are a beautiful young woman and anyone should be honored to call themselves your friend. Big Hug, Rosa