Anyone in or was in a Chub/Chaser relationship befre WLS?

Hello Everyone! I am new to obesityhelp.com and I am seriously, seriously thinking of having WLS. I am 27 years old and in a Chub/Chaser relationship. My partner of four years is being supportive of me in making this decision. My biggest fear is of losing him since I will be getting rid of most of what initially attracted himself to me....which was my size, etc. He tells me that won't change his feelings for me because he still loves the person that I would be on the inside. Am I over-reacting with my fear? Was anyone in or were in a situation like this? If so, how did it go? Any advice or suggestions will be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks so much!

FIRST OFF, WELCOME!!! I AM NOT IN A CHUB/CHASER RELATIONSHIP, BUT I AM IN LOVE!!!! MY PARTNER LOVED ME FAT, MY PARTNER LOVES ME THIN!!!!!! PLEASE DO, WHAT YOU NEED TO DO, FOR YOURSELF!!!!! HUGGS AND KISSES

Hi Michael, I'm a bear and looking to have the surgery and only have gotten postive feed back from BF's and general friends. Their are many in our community that have had the operation and form a tight net support group for one another. Take your partner at his word. He loves you for you and you're doing this for your health not to distance yourself from him. You'll be going through enough in your own body changes and I believe you will find him very supporative and there for you. Huggers, Derrick

Hello Michael, I know exactly how you feel. My ex and I were in a very similar relationship for a long time and there are still strong feelings of attraction between us. When we talked about this surgery he told me that long ago he stopped loving me fat and just loved me. We aren't together because are lives have taken different directions but the point is that if this is something you need and want go for it. The lust of any relationship grows into something much stronger after the newness wears off for any couple, chaser/chub or otherwise. So now, instead of saying he loves even though I am chubby (and we all say that, even if it is just in our head) you can can say he loves me even though I am thin! And he will get to love you a lot longer that way! My best of luck and warm wishest to you!

I met Heath when I was in great shape and pretty buffed. I ballooned up two hundred and 10 pounds but he never said a word. He loved me all the same. He was afraid of the surgery but now has told me he was more afraid I would die if I did not have it. We are just as happy today as we were when I was 392lbs and when we first met at 180lbs. Love knows no weight. chip