goals

Goals.. I have been doing a lot of "posting" readings lately, and I find that most people have lists of goals. I think that is one of my issues. I really have no goals. Yes, I want to lose weight and be happy...but I don't really have any definitive goals. Guess it is time to start thinking about the "I wishes"

Daniel, I have spent the better part of my life "floating". Not having any real direction, stating "well, I just want to be happy". If you don't have any idea how to be happy, you can't possibly be. I am 49 years old and just beginning to realize that you need goals to realize your dreams. No one will "make" you happy. That delightful task is up to you. I have found that talking to someone professionally helps to clear the clutter from my "gray matter" and really allows me to seperate the important stuff from the frivolous and come to an understanding of what truly matters to me. Perhaps this can help you too. If you are seeing someone now; great if they help then super. If not find someone else. Don't wait till you are middle aged to figure this out. Good luck, Carol

Definetly. This is the time to plan out some short and long term goals. True wt. los it'self is a goal. THE BEST! I built on that putting a goal with a reward at what I decided were my milestones like getting under 200 was my first, (buying a motorcycle),and my wt loss 'goal' was to go on a cruise. Unfortunately my wallet couldn't keep up!! It's good to have goals even material ones, but I was that I was using that rationale to reward myself anytime, not just when I met my goal.. Just traded one addiction (eating) for another (shopping) and we'll, it's not an uncommon story. Anyway, Carol had a better idea with focusing/ working on the inner self stuff.

Daniel, I'm also not a "goals" person, even in my professional life ... I hate evaluation time ....I'm required to create goals for my employees ...like, gee, aren't these good "tasks" for you to think about. But ... I do have a goal for this weight loss. I was 312 when the doctor told me to do this...284 the morning of surgery (9/20) and 261 today ... when I get to 249 >>>WHOO HOOO!!! I'm going to pull down the stairs to the attic (safety reading says they will hold up to 250#) and go see what it looks like up there. I bought this new house 19 months ago and have NEVER been up there .... So ... guess that's not a "I gotta do this to accompli**** goal" ...but rather a no cost reward for getting there. But I'm looking forward to it non-the-less. Jody

Jody that is great. What a great way to look at goal setting. A few of the smaller things in life I have been able to do. I am so happy not to shop at the big and tall. Not being afraid that I will be put in a booth at the the local diner. I am working on small goals now. I always said that if I got under 200 I would get myself a Harley. Well, that is a little above my teacher salary. But, I am looking at wearing more ties to work now that I can tuck in my shirt. I will get some plastics done when I get to goal and stay there a bit. I am also going to do the Aids Lifecycle ride in June. It is a 585 mile bike ride from SF to LA. That is now a big goal for me. I need to get in shape and raise the needed funds $2,500. This is a big goal that I can do. It gets me outside on my bike and gets me going. I also want to make it past 7 years with Eric. All of my relationships end at the 7 year mark. I will be very careful about this one. I want it to last til death do us part-our way-not theirs. So, work out those goals and by next year look back and see where you were and smile. David

I keep thinking I need to make my goals list too. I don't have any "big" goals (like getting to a certain weight), but I do have a lot of little things that I would like to enjoy. However, at the same time, I can already feel like I am making accomplishments so I don't feel like I am "having" to try to focus all my energy on these goals because I am getting other things done. Does this make sense? I tend to not be so clear headed in the morning. Just know that you will find yourself doing things now that you were unable to do, and think of all these things as big accomplishment. I guess my overall goal is to be healthier and happier. All the little stuff in between are my stepping stones to this goal.