"Love (or WLS) is better the 2nd time around..."

Hi Family, As some of you may know, I had lap band surgery 4/4/03. In the beginning, it was a great success until I learned how to beat it and it was all down hill from there. I learned that my main problem with food (besides being an emotional eater) is sweets and fats. I have been pondering how to deal with this for about a year now and finally decided to have the gastric bypass. I spoke with my surgeon who after much discussion agreed that the bypass might be a better option for me if I can stick with the idea of fear of dumping and not eat sweets and fats for fear of that reaction. I am hopeful that I can. I also went back into therapy to deal with all the emotional baggage that I carry around (bad marriage, guilt regarding my kids and my husband's anger, confusion regarding my preferences). So, I am trying to get it together. We just closed on a home equity loan, so I will be able to put a down payment on the surgery (I no longer have the great insurance I had back in '03). At this point I am just waiting for a date. I never thought that at my age (49) I would have this much confusion and turmoil, but I guess everyone has their own you-know-what to deal with and this is mine. Thanks for letting me vent! Carol

Hi Carol, Big decision...but it sounds like you know what you're doing. Good for you! Hope you get your date soon! Jen

Jen, Thanks for the encouragement! I am really excited about this. I have an appt for an endoscopy on Nov. 1st so I guess sometime after that I should be hearing. So, how are you doing? What are your stats lately?? Thanks again, Carol

Carol, #1, I must always respond to a post that includes the ""ing smiley #2, It sounds as if you are getting your focus on better priorities...aka your health! What date are you aiming at? Maureen

Hey Maureen, I am hoping for early December. My 50th birthday is in July, so I am aiming for better health and better finances by then. I am even looking into getting my bachelor's degree in nursing(I have my Associate's). It's amazing how motivating a mid life crisis can be!!! When is your date? Thanks for responding! Carol

Carol, It really sounds like you have analyzed your situation and are ready to deal with the decision you have made. You will have your date before you know it! I wish you continued success.

Thanks, Tink. How are you feeling? Take good care of yourself, ok? Carol

Your going through a lot. Good for you for getting into therapy. Good luck at your appt!

Thanks for your support, Jo. Carol

Carol Good luck sweetie! Keep me posted on your surgery date, when ya find out! I can relate with the sweets and fats thing... but wish I could eat them now just teasin ~b