I have a Boyfriend!!!!!!!!!

(deactivated member)
on 7/31/13 6:59 am

For the first time in years, I am happy to say - I have a boyfriend!

It sounds so foreign for me to say that. My last relationship was over 10 years ago, when I was at my highest weight of 325 lbs. He was a smaller guy, but "loved" me for who I was. Despite our breakup and my years of hatred towards him (it was an ugly break up) the one thing he always did was make me feel handsome just the way I was.

So, I met a guy a little over a month ago and it's going really well. We seem to connect on many levels, sex is good, he's very handsome, etc. At first I was hiding the fact that I had WLS - the stigma of WLS being a crutch is awful.

At dinner one night (he cooked chicken, which is something I have issues with if it's dry - his was) I had to excuse myself because something was stuck (and we all know how that goes). When I returned to the table he could tell (and heard) something wasn't right so he asked me what was up. I replied "I had an issue with my food and needed to take care of it." That brought on other questions and eventually I told him that I had lap band in 2009, weight loss, etc.

He said that he was proud of me for doing what I had to do to become healthier. He then told me about his own weight struggles as a child and young adult. Although he didn't have WLS, he did have a weight problem so he understood what I've been through.

I've talked to many people who want to keep their WLS a secret and I had to share my experience because I think it's important we talk about it, and change some of the stigma around it, especially in the gay community.

I hope all of you are loved, if not do not give up - cause he is out there! I'm proof.