how did your partner feel?

Hey everyone! Since being with my partner, I put on a quite of bit of weight. I did all of my testing and am now "awaiting approval". I feel like my partner and I drifted apart some, and because of my low self esteem I blame it on my size/weight. what have you all experience with before and after surgery with your partner?

Thanks in advance :)

 

Robert

We are surviving the changes pretty well. I, too, feel like our relationship suffered more when I was bigger and had lower self-esteem.  I carried our first child, gained a TON of weight, and never lost it.  I was miserable and I think I may have been bringing her down with me.  9.5 months post op, we are doing wonderfully and she is 8 months pregnant with our second. 

It's amazing how the way we view ourselves affects those closest to us so much.

Good luck in your journey! 

Awesome. Congrats and thank you for the reply.

My partner was super supportive, and went through the journey with me.  Same with my plastic surgery.  He saw me balloon up and shrink down to goal.

Mine says he is supportive but he hasn't gone to any of my appts. I think it's wise for him to be educated on this as well.

SOmetimes what we think they "need" to do, and what they feel they need to do are two very different things.  My partner is very supportive, we have been together for 30 years- been throguh "it all"..... but honestly I wanted to do much of the pre-op and post op appts on my own. This is an intensely personal journey for me- and of course I need and want the support of my family, but I also know at the end of the day it's between me, my God, and the scale.  I appreciate the space, as much as the "support".