When to tell someone you're dating you've had WLS???

I was wondering if anyone had any opinions on when to tell someone that you are dating that you've had weight loss surgery.  Would you tell them?  Or should you keep that a secret.  I think its obvious because of the portion sizes that we eat that they'll notice you are not eating much, but just wanted to know of anyone's opinion or experiences on the topic.

Thanks

I would tell them in the first couple of dates, why would you want to start off a relationship with a lie? It's going to come out eventually and if it turns them off- they they weren't worth your time to begin with. I don't think most people would even bat an eyelash...but that's just my opinion...

:Danni

I agree with Inkd, if the dates repeat themselves obviously there's a mutual interest.  No, I wouldn't tell someone on the first date.  But maybe once both of you get to know eachother, it's good to let them know.  I think honesty is the best policy (I know, so cliche).  They're going to find out eventually so don't bring them into something they're really not willing to accept, and waste both of your time.  A true lover is not going to judge you by a health choice you made, but instead say to you that you were brave for making that decision.  You also need to realize that they may not understand all the issues/reasons/etc.  It would be a good conversation point to learn more about you and also about them. 

Hey thanks you all,

I really appreciate it, I just was wondering if anyone was ever faced with that.  I would like to be honest, but you know some people are very judgemental about the whole weight loss surgery thing. I am definitely a success story and am not ashamed of the procedure I had done because I am healthy as an ox and am without diabetes.  Thanks for the insight on this one..

Sounds like you've gotten some sound advice and are taking it to heart.  I think it's great that you are reaching out for a little insight and input on how to approach it.  If I were single, I would be the same way.  If you are looking for something permanent and long-lasting, I agree it's better to lay the foundation of honesty out quickly.

Take care and let us know how it goes.

Hugs,

Danny

I'd say something on the first date, why not? I'm so open about it now with people in general and if it's something they aren't "down" with ...then it would be better to let me know so I'm not wasting more dates with the person. But like I said ...I tell so many people I've just met as it is... so telling someone I'd be on a first date with would be no big deal to me.

Ok so I am going to stray from the path just a lil bit. I might be a lil more guarded with people because of my POZ status, so take what we are all saying and you decide.
I would say tell them when you feel like its the right time. There is no right or wrong time, I agree that we should be as open as possible to build strong relationships. I also know that I dont necessarily want to build that kind of relationship with everyone I meet. Not everyone wants, deserves, respects, or has earned that level of friendship.

Hugs
G

Great point G!  I hadn't thought of it that way, but very well informed advice.