Just how much stress can I handle right now?

At this point in my life I am: (a) ending an 18-year relationship, (b), trying to get approval for sleeve surgery from a surly and reluctant insurer, and (c) trying like heck to get promoted out of a job that is boring me to tears. Oh yeah, before I forget, there's this little issue of unrequited attraction to a woman I met about a year or so ago who totally blew me away. Anything else stressful I can throw in there? Give me a minute, I can probably think of something.

If I weren't dealing with the others, any one of these issues I could probably handle with alot less angst than what I have now. But geez, right now I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. Ever feel like you just can't catch a break, in anything? There is this masochistic, nasty little voice in my head that keeps trying to tell me if I wasn't overweight, this woman might have been interested. I'm trying not to listen but it gets harder and harder every day.

Sorry folks, I hate to post on here with such a "whine fest" but I'm just feeling a tad overwhelmed right now. Hopefully I will look back on this post in six months or a year and laugh my rear end off. Anybody else been in a similar fix? How did you get your head (and your heart) out of the hole???

 Oh wow!  You really do have a huge amount of stress right now! *hugs*!
There was a point in my life, about a year ago where I was going through SOOO much stress and uncertainty that I thought I might have to seriously admit myself, just to get a break!  I started to meditate, and I had to learn to just let go... let go of the stress, it is not worth it!!!
I know it is so much easier said then done... but take a step back and breathe!!  Just look at what you cannot fix, and let it go (that was my hardest part)..and know that everything happens for a reason...even though we may not know what the reason is!!
Sending healing and positive energies your way, and hope that things will relax and unstress for you soon!

Thanks for taking the time to respond!  Yeah, I gotta remember how to stop, take a deep breath, and re-focus.  I have never thought about mediation, but maybe now is the time to do that.  It certainly can't hurt! 

Appreciate the positive thoughts, too!  Maybe you can send a few of those towards my insurance company...

 Consider them sent to the insurance company too ;)  Meditation is amazing!  It is hard with a 4 year old running all over LOL, but when I get a break I go somewhere nice in nature.  Be it the beach, Botanical Gardens or even a park.  I am a dork and bring incense sometimes as well LOL... but I guess watching the smoke brings me into a meditation on its own.  Its amazing how wonderful you will feel after 15 minutes :)

Wow.  Each of those individually is a huge stressor, much less all three together.  I imagine you are really wiped emotionally, physically and spiritually.  Take some time to be nice to yourself, you deserve it, especially as you are moving forward with seeking surgery.

As for the masochistic voice, don't listen.  And to add to that, if this person wasn't attracted to you based on your outside appearance, that probably isn't the person who you want to be interested in anyway.  I know when obsessed with someone it doesn't help to hear that, but I wanted to throw that in there.  You deserve better than that!

Anyway, hugs to you and I'm sending you positive thoughts.

Hugs,

Danny

Well stated!

As an addition, remember that I'd you're distracted pining for someone you can't have, it's possible to miss the person right in front of your face that can bring you comfort and love.

Very true!  I have told that to others many times, and now it appears I have forgotten my own good advice!  Thanks for replying.

Thanks Danny, I appreciate it.  I'm trying to stifle that nasty little voice and I find it gets just a little bit easier each day.  I know I'm headed in the right direction, but something about that woman touched my heart.  Don't know why...doesn't matter, really.  I've got to keep my chin up and move on.  You're right, there are plenty of women out there who will want to be with me no matter what I weigh!

Thanks for the response and the positive thoughts!