OT Being "Visible"

I need some support OH peeps, I know this is Off Topic of weight-loss but it is a GLBT issue...

As an androgynous/butch woman I get a lot of stares, comments, glares and the like. Most of the time it doesn't bother me, but lately it's been really aggravating!

I would like to just walk into a gym/bathroom/work/restaurant ect..., and not have people gaping open mouthed at the man/woman (they're often not sure) who just walked into the room.

Logically, I should just continue ignoring them and go about my way, but lately it's just been bugging me. I want to scream "Hey I'm just a person going about my day- please do the same!!!"

Help me get over this!

Ok sense we cant fix them, or human nature to awe over things....

Lets try this...

Visualize (for better or worse depending whos giving the looks) that they are just basking in the glory of you and your beauty.



Hugs to ya..
G

LOL! Okay flipin' it...I like that. I'm  shockingly beautiful? ..hmm...that may work. May be difficult due to my low self-esteem! It would be easier if I thought of myself that way, so maybe you're right. 

It's tough for me, because I've never wanted to be conceited and I'm so afraid that if I like how I look- then I'll be stuck up or something...does that make sense?

Gurrrrrl, you are smokin' hot.  How can you not see that???

Sharyn you always know how to make me purr like a kitten!

So, this is where you've been hiding, you little minx!

Miss YOU!  Now, write something nurse-like and make me a happy girl!

****ttttttttt id be tickled pink to be seen in public with you JUS SAYING XOXOXO


smile mamma

Being a heterosexual happily married woman, I'd like to "chime in" from my perspective (I'm not speaking for all of "my type" though)!!  :

I was raised in New Orleans, so I'm very open minded about different lifestyles/relationships, etc and have many dear friends that are gay.  As a matter of fact, one of my aunts was dear friends with a drag queen affectionately known as "Aunt Dougie" to me--I dreamed of being as beautiful as her one day (and yes, I knew even as a child that he was a man, but it all was just regular life for me).  

I stare--but I stare at everybody!  I just like to people watch...and maybe I'm out with one of my gay friends and I see someone I know is "their type" so I'm scoping someone for them!! 

I guess what I'm trying to say is there will always be small minded people that will judge others because they don't fit a mold of what their narrow mind considers "normal".  We also experienced that as obese people.  Forget those fools.

You seem secure in who you are, and confident especially since you've been so successful with your weight loss.  Some people are just interested in people, and someone might just want to hook up with ya!  Give 'em a good wink--that will either get you a date or freak them out and then you can stare at them and get a good laugh!

Take it easy,

Kim

Thanks for the "Straight" insight Kim!  Though I think if I start winking at people my girlfriend may take issue with that!!! Hahaha!

Joking aside, I know that much of the flack is merely interest or rather confusion, I just wish people were more subtle about it, is all....

me<---working on "forgetting those fools"!!! For sure!

Danni,

Here's a thought.... you were an androgynous/butch woman when u were 200 lbs heavier (well after u got ur butch cut & stopped wearing makeup!)  LOL... Anyway... People "stared" at you back then because you were andro/butch and obese.  But that didn't seem to bother you as much as it does not that you're *just* andro/butch with a healthy body.  Might this have something to do with the fact that you didn't care much what other people thought back then because you felt safe inside those extra 200 lbs and now that they are gone, there's nothing hiding you now.

You can't change other people's behavior but you can change your perception of yourself. 

You know you can call me anytime to talk, my friend!

Love you lots!
~M