Major Stalls.... need to get refocused and motivated

Help!!  I need some motivation here.

I'm having some major issues getting my head back in the game.  I've found myself making bad choices on a regular basis for the past few months.   I'm creeping up in weight a few pounds, not working out, etc.   I am scared I am on a road to failure and I can't have this happen.

I know what I need to do, but what I am hoping to get from some of you is your stories of how you got back into the game and focused.  How you handle stress, etc.

Would love to hear your stories of inspiration!?!?!

Hey Hot Stuff!

I totally hear ya!  I gained about 5 lbs over the past 4 months or so.  When I got pg in Nov I was so scared about the viability of the pregnancy that I completely stopped working out and was stress eating.  Ya... totally didn't help.  I did end up having a miscarriage right before xmas (ya... merry xmas to us!) but then after NYE I got back in the game.  And here's how...

When I got under 200 lbs and into Onederland, I said to myself "I will NEVER be in the 200's again!"  And that means for ANY reason.  During pregnancy, it's expected that I will gain about 20 lbs in baby weight.  I had creeped up to 178 at the end of Dec.  And hellz no was I going to have the possibility of getting over 200 lbs during my pregnancy.  So... back in the gym and back to eating healthier.

I've now dropped 3 of those 5 lbs and I'm at 175 right now.  Work in progress... And as far a getting pregnant goes, we'll try again in a couple months when my girl parts are back to normal.

it's not easy... I totally get it!  But you need to remember what is REALLY important to you and find your own motivation from within.

Oh... and you bettah get ur butt registered for the WLSFA event in Vegas.  Registration goes up from $40 to $50 on 2/1.  Do it baby! 

Big hugs and love!
~Maryn

I'm too new at this to offer a lot of advice on how to lose. But, I can tell you what's working for me now.

Get Support: I really rely on the people here to keep me focused on my goal. In addition, there are 4 of us at work who have had this surgery in the past 6 months. We look out for each other and I get a huge dose of support every day from them. Finally, my Doctor's office has a monthly support group that I attend.

Be Accountable:  In the Men's Forum on this site there is a weekly weigh-in where people post their progress. I'm thinking of starting one in this forum. It really helps me when I know I'm going to have to account for my progress every week.

Look at Things Realistically:  OK, confession time for me. I don't work out as much as I should. Just don't have the time since I'm working 11-12 hours per day and a couple weekends a month. So, I decided not to beat myself up about it. I do wear a pedometer and track how many steps I walk each day. When I can't hit the gym, I make sure to check the pedometer and "celebrate" the exercise I did get. I take the stairs instead of an elevator. I park in the farthest stall in the parking lot. Every morning we have a 10 minute "stretch and flex" at work. In short, a lot of these small things add up to movement and exercise.

Get Plenty of Rest:  A year ago my work life was hell. The stress was almost too much. So, I decided to do nothing other than work and rest. I stopped all extra activities, minimized phone calls to family and friends, and went to bed very early. This really helped until the work problems got resolved. Just didn't have energy to do anything while under stress.

Enjoy a Massage: There are a couple of massage therapy colleges near me. I can get an hour's massage for $30. Nothing more relaxing than that.

Good luck with everything and keep us posted.

Hey Jamie. I have hot the wall in a big way a few times now and the one thing I had not done since my surgery date was add exercise. So I decided to add an exercise regimen that agev me structure every day. I started Body for Life on New Year's day and have followed it sicne then. It is a 6 day a week program with a work book that has you track your food intake ( they recommend 6 times a day eating with lean proteins and complex carbs), 3 days of increasing intensity cardio for 20 minutes adn 3 days a week of weight lifting. What I love about it is that it focuses me, I have a strcuture to follow and am accountaboe to myself becasue I track food, fluid intake and movement so I have to stay mindful of every decision I make. I get into troube sometimes if my thinking becomes just about food. The seciond I do that the big "deprivation" trap hits me and I start thinkingabout what I can't eat/have etc..

When I start s;lipping it is usually into mental stuff and I go all mindless, start getting emotional eating behaviors or enjoy having the "f--- its" and just go wild. It really helps to have the structure becasue I can turn it around into a positive momentum instead of neagtive stuff.

Probably doesn't matter what program you pick. I was thinking I would try the new kettle bells work out after this 3 month program endsw t change it up and keep it interesting.

Good luck buddy. Try to tell yourslef that this is just a bad period for you but NOT the end or the beginning of a permanent slide. I am pulling for you!!