Time to step up the "butchness"?

I have always been butch and have enjoyed wearing mens clothing and love my short hair.
I have been losing some weight pre surgery and am getting a little uncomfortable and it's a bit comical as well with all the advances by the opposite gender.
I've been hit on by men before but now with the weight loss ( I guess I look more lady like?) and with me growing my hair out, until insurance approves my surgery (just a thing I felt like doing) It is at an increasing rate.
My replies vary depending on my mood. From "thanks but....." to "when you grow a vagina I'll grow to like you". Most everyone has been good about it, but it is amusing that now that I don't look so butch and lost some flab all of a sudden it's like , bam!
Anyone else have a problem "hanging on to their persona" or what they always have been seen of or felt like after surgery. While I am not switching teams, nor have ever played for it, It sure is amusing to me and is making more normally secure partner , a little insecure.
What is she going to do when the real "threat" of women hitting on me again comes? Any advice for her? Thanks guys!

Hey GSaph!

I hear ya.  Altho I've always been the femmie type... a friend who posts here pretty often had some "what about my butchness" questions too.  I'll ping her and ask her to chime in.

Welcome and congrats on your journey.

~Maryn

There are a few posts that pop up every now and again on this forum... this is one of those. In fact I wrote something similar about a year ago!

So much of who you are is tied up in how you look and especially for us ladies who are in touch with our masculine side. I remember thinking that I was guna be this tiny girl and I would lose myself.

Thankfully lots of things will come out when you lose the weight, and you get to decide what kind of person you shape yourslef to be. Some people become more girlie, others go the other way.

Me, I stayed the same, I'm just a more authentic version of myself. A healthy happier one.
Good luck
:Danni

haha yea this topic comeS up .... i just had a huge thread on  LOOSING WEIGHT AND BUTCHNESS  check it out ..

but everything that INKD said is pretty much true ... also to help your partner out .. the bottom line is you go home to momma!!!  My wife had some issues and the groups and psyc i went to al spoke about divorce rates and such .. but we are in it till death and  its flatttering when people hit on me or comment  bottom line is every night i am curled up to my wife!!!!  

She thinks its flattery as well when people hit on me or say something like i look good  cuz she is thinking .... I'M GOING HOME WITH THAT !!! 

I am the same brain and personality the only thing that has changed is my size and the number on my jeans! Oh and i have the anorexic mentality right now ... I still think i am huge despite my loss!
- JDUB

 I have always been pretty femme, but it has been weird to see how attention from men has changed.  There have been more men who have hit on me (much to my wife's chagrin and pride LOL) but it is so interesting that I noticed I am not as "invisible" as I think I was.  Men hold doors for me, or run to help me with a package, or offer their seats.  Its weird....nice in some ways but weird because I didnt realize the absence of the attention until I see it now.

I don't ever anticipate that sort of thing, so it always catches me off guard....just kind of an interesting social experience!

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