That time of year...

When it is difficult to be single at times. Missing my ex gf...wanting to text or email her but trying not too.....we had an on again/off again relationship and I don't want it to start up if it is going to be the same way. I think I have made some changes and am more ready to be in relationship....but it takes two to make it work.

Sorry, I am doing the pity party thing here. Maybe if I go and listen to some Karen Carpenter I will feel better....ho ho hum....

deb366

Sending you a great big hug!!!!  Holidays are hard sometimes!   I wish you a new relationship in the new year!!!  You are a wonderful person and the best will come your way!!

Thanks Ann, I wish me a relationship in 2011 too! Oh, a good, functional one. Sometimes it seems like you fall into one effortlessly and then when you are in them it is hard....a lot of work.

I also think that when you are post surgery (or pre) there are just emotional issues that need to be dealt with...and sometimes I am just not the the best.

I tend to be a runner, or what is the term in that song?? A "flight risk".

Wishing you all the best in the new year too, and since it is Christmas eve, MERRY CHRISTMAS!

deb366

Aw Deb...if I can manage to fall into a functional, loving relationship after what I had gone through in the past....so can you :)  Stay positive, it WILL happen when the time is right!!

Merry Christmas!

deb,

it's hard for me too... i'm sitting here at work right now...because i have no life...and i'm listening to every sad song my mp3 player can find... things have to get better. we're all here to give you support. merry christmas...

kim

Thanks Lisa and Kim.

It ended up that she texted me on Christmas...and we did the back and forth texting for awhile. Then this morning, I just got pissed by something she said (she forgives me, now I can move on and find someone I really want)....anyway....I had been so serious and sad and then, I just started cracking up! You know things really do happen for a reason and she and I just are super great at pushing each other's buttons. So I felt guilty for a moment...but the laughter felt so good. That is what I want in a relationship...lots of laughter.

Also checked out a new dating site and found several who were interesting to me, but I am not into spending the money to join at this time. So we will just see. Right now I am in a good space.

Kim, I know the listening to sad music thing....it is a good way to get in to the sadness...but at somepoint...you will know when...try some happier more upbeat tunes...

Hope everyone had a good Christmas....looking forward to 2011 and the mysteries it holds for us all.

deb366

PS I did want to relate this to WLS in that before I had surgery, I thought that surgery would 'fix' everything in my life. And life is still just life. There have been some really sad times and some really fantastic times. It is great to be healthy, great to physically be able to do the things I want to do...but losing weight doesn't fix all the problems. Another one of those reality checks.