If i make it through december everything will be alright.
Hello all this is joe again and i thought id check in and let everyone know what a horrible month this has been to anyone that cares. First my dog nibbler, a pug who was only one died because he had a series of really bad seizures that must of fried his brain, and that was really hard on me. Then as i bury him i get a call that a friend had passed away. So we go to West Virginia to the funeral and literally one day after we come back more bad news, We lost that persons mother who was 82 but i thought this women as a second mother. I know that they are all in heaven, but it is still hard to lose someone that is close to you. Surprisingly i haven't turn to food like i have in the past when i was sad. I am now down to 220 which is great and everyone has asked me, I bet you must be happy with all that weightloss, well i wish i could just focus on that instead of all this sadness. I am slowly feeling better and restarting to be happy about my weightloss and i am just so glad that i have this site and people who care about my journey and just wanted to share my month with all just in case anybody was wondering why i haven't posted like i used to. I wish all a very Merry Christmas and please be safe.
Joe,
I'm so sorry for all of your loss. But sounds like you've been handling it well with not turning to food. That takes a lot of strength. You've done a fantastic job on your journey so far. Keep up the great work. And be gentle with yourself. Make sure you take some time to love and nurture yourself. Keep breathing and know that you are doing well.
Hope you have a blessed Christmas and remember that next year will be a whole new year for you... a year unlike any you've had before. A year where you get to experience yourself as the man you've wanted to be for a very long time. You are that man now. I celebrate you and the journey you are on.
Love,
Maryn
I'm so sorry for all of your loss. But sounds like you've been handling it well with not turning to food. That takes a lot of strength. You've done a fantastic job on your journey so far. Keep up the great work. And be gentle with yourself. Make sure you take some time to love and nurture yourself. Keep breathing and know that you are doing well.
Hope you have a blessed Christmas and remember that next year will be a whole new year for you... a year unlike any you've had before. A year where you get to experience yourself as the man you've wanted to be for a very long time. You are that man now. I celebrate you and the journey you are on.
Love,
Maryn
Our little miracle baby boy is on his way!
Hey Joe...
I reiterate what Maryn writes...you haven't turned to food...and I know you won't...you will find the strength to deal with your grief a day at a time. I know December losses are especially painful, I lost my Father on December 18th when I was 10 and the last time I saw him he was falling down drunk one week before on Dec 11th, 1971. I took comfort in the fact I know he was proud of me when I finally got sober 23 years ago and...I still talk to him & my grandparents at times whenever they cross my mind...I had a little conversation with him on Saturday and they're all overjoyed up there that I have taken the steps towards a healthier life...and I won't be joining them anytime soon! LOL
The thing is, you're doing great....and just by sharing here you're taking those steps that are helping you grieve and walk through the process. One of the things that folks tend to do is NOT let it out, not open up and not share what they're going though with people that care about them...and we all know what stuffing those feelings leads to...it USED TO MEAN most of us would turn to food and stuff ourselves, along with the feelings and grief...but we don't have to do that anymore! Hallelujah!
You will make it through the weekend and you will make it through the end of the month...and everything is going to be alright...and if you need to cry...do it! Have a Merry Happy Holigay Joe...I'm sending you my infamous big old bear hugs from RI....(and they were infamous wen I was 205 many, many, many years ago! I was named the best hugger in AA!)
James...XOXOXO
I reiterate what Maryn writes...you haven't turned to food...and I know you won't...you will find the strength to deal with your grief a day at a time. I know December losses are especially painful, I lost my Father on December 18th when I was 10 and the last time I saw him he was falling down drunk one week before on Dec 11th, 1971. I took comfort in the fact I know he was proud of me when I finally got sober 23 years ago and...I still talk to him & my grandparents at times whenever they cross my mind...I had a little conversation with him on Saturday and they're all overjoyed up there that I have taken the steps towards a healthier life...and I won't be joining them anytime soon! LOL
The thing is, you're doing great....and just by sharing here you're taking those steps that are helping you grieve and walk through the process. One of the things that folks tend to do is NOT let it out, not open up and not share what they're going though with people that care about them...and we all know what stuffing those feelings leads to...it USED TO MEAN most of us would turn to food and stuff ourselves, along with the feelings and grief...but we don't have to do that anymore! Hallelujah!
You will make it through the weekend and you will make it through the end of the month...and everything is going to be alright...and if you need to cry...do it! Have a Merry Happy Holigay Joe...I'm sending you my infamous big old bear hugs from RI....(and they were infamous wen I was 205 many, many, many years ago! I was named the best hugger in AA!)
James...XOXOXO
James, thank you for your kind words. I am proud that you have stayed sober for 23 years. Most of my immediate family have alcohol addictions and i know what it can do to people. So once again a big CONGRATS, As for me one day at a time and i know ill be fine. Thanks for the big bear hug i love hugs not too many people do anymore, i think i could honestly hug for an hour straight lol. Thanks again for your kind words of encouragement. Feel free to keep in touch if you have any questions or just need an ear to listen. Merry Holigay to you as well LOL!!
James,
You can't be the best hugger in AA -- I thought I had that title!
I had a sweatshirt shortly after getting out of rehab that said "Hug Therapist" on it until someone pointed out that it could also be read as "Hug The Rapist!"
That was a lot of years ago. I just celebrated 27 years on the 12th. I'm trying to use a lot of the tools of the program to deal with the changes my WLS has brought. It, too, is frequently One Day at a Time. Right now I'm dealing with a band that might be too tight. I need to make a decision by Thursday morning if I need to get a little un-fill or run the risk of suffering through a holiday weekend. Giving time time is sometimes very hard for this drunk.
Cheers!
You can't be the best hugger in AA -- I thought I had that title!
I had a sweatshirt shortly after getting out of rehab that said "Hug Therapist" on it until someone pointed out that it could also be read as "Hug The Rapist!"
That was a lot of years ago. I just celebrated 27 years on the 12th. I'm trying to use a lot of the tools of the program to deal with the changes my WLS has brought. It, too, is frequently One Day at a Time. Right now I'm dealing with a band that might be too tight. I need to make a decision by Thursday morning if I need to get a little un-fill or run the risk of suffering through a holiday weekend. Giving time time is sometimes very hard for this drunk.
Cheers!
Rich -- "One Day at a Time, One Pound at a Time"
(Start: 292.6 / surgery weight: 265.0 / current: 205.6 / goal: 175.0)
(Start: 292.6 / surgery weight: 265.0 / current: 205.6 / goal: 175.0)
OneFinger
on 12/23/10 12:15 pm
on 12/23/10 12:15 pm
Joe,
I'm amazed at how you're handling the stress of the holiday season AND the added grief of losing friends. But, I'm sure your family and kids are a great support and relief at this time.
I've alays found myself emotionally drained when I've lost someone close to me. But, after my parent's death I found a grief support group that really helped me work through the "stuff". With all the changes you're going through, it might be helpful to find a support group or LSW to you process things.
Just this week my Dr. brought in an LSW for a WLS support group. I went thinking it was a waste of time. But, I learned some good tools to help adjust with the changes in my life.
The WLS surgery is a major shock to the body and the mind. Add to that your other stress and you've got a mighty full plate.
Continue taking care of yourself and know that you have friends here that care.
I'm amazed at how you're handling the stress of the holiday season AND the added grief of losing friends. But, I'm sure your family and kids are a great support and relief at this time.
I've alays found myself emotionally drained when I've lost someone close to me. But, after my parent's death I found a grief support group that really helped me work through the "stuff". With all the changes you're going through, it might be helpful to find a support group or LSW to you process things.
Just this week my Dr. brought in an LSW for a WLS support group. I went thinking it was a waste of time. But, I learned some good tools to help adjust with the changes in my life.
The WLS surgery is a major shock to the body and the mind. Add to that your other stress and you've got a mighty full plate.
Continue taking care of yourself and know that you have friends here that care.
High Weight = 310 Surgery Weight = 300 Dr's Goal = 200 My Goal = 190 
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