Did you/ will you watch The Kids Are All Right?? *spoilers*
Maybe I should start by saying that I'm not gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender... But, this movie is about lesbians so I thought I'd come over here and see what you folks think/thought of it...
So, I wanted to watch this movie, because I like to put my money where my mouth is in regards to "non-traditional" families... At first, I was really excited to see it, and I thought the premise would be interesting... It's about a lesbian couple, who each had a child with the same sperm donor, and when the oldest child was 18, she reached out to the sperm donor to meet him, and then the 5 of them (2 lesbian moms, 1 girl teen, 1 boy teen, and 1 straight guy) try to work out a new kind of family situation...
It's not playing anywhere near my house so I had to drive all the way to Santa Monica to see it, which took almost an hour to get there, and almost 2 hours to get home. And, they are doing tons of construction so it was a HUGE hassle, but I didn't mind that too much, I just wanted to support my GLBT friends by supporting a movie about GLBT people.
But, now that I've seen it, I'm kind of not sure what to think about it... I like that someone put money behind making this film, but I'm kind of pissed that one of the lesbian women has sex with the straight guy in this movie... I think if someone is a lesbian and has been in a marriage type relationship for 20+ years, it's not incredibly likely she is going to cheat with some guy. Why would she suddenly jump to a man?? Why not show her tempted by another woman?? Or Why add that to the story at all, it was certainly interesting enough to watch these two moms trying to deal with the idea of having a man (any man) in their kids lives. (For some reason, this film acted like there was no such thing as grandparents or aunts and uncles, but that's fine, whatever...)
And, also, I feel kind of like this movie is saying that meeting your sperm or egg donor as an adult is taking a risk at ruining your family that you love. If this daughter had never gotten in touch with this sperm donor, he never would have slept with one of her moms, which nearly destroyed their family. At the end of the movie, the children have both rejected the sperm donor, and the moms have both made it clear to him that he is not a part of the family... There is one tiny gesture made by the daughter that COULD indicate she may speak to him again someday, but he has no resolution and is simply ejected from the lives of these two kids that he has spent a lot of time getting to know, and getting attached to. I think it's sad to make this kind of statement. I thought he was kind of a decent guy, he hadn't settled down with anyone and learned during the movie that he does want to settle down, so he did some growing during the film, and that growth was thrown away in the ending of this story, I think...
*sigh*
Maybe I just think too much... What do you think about this film?? Did you watch it? Do you want to watch it? I'm super curious to hear some other people's takes on it! :D
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
So, I wanted to watch this movie, because I like to put my money where my mouth is in regards to "non-traditional" families... At first, I was really excited to see it, and I thought the premise would be interesting... It's about a lesbian couple, who each had a child with the same sperm donor, and when the oldest child was 18, she reached out to the sperm donor to meet him, and then the 5 of them (2 lesbian moms, 1 girl teen, 1 boy teen, and 1 straight guy) try to work out a new kind of family situation...
It's not playing anywhere near my house so I had to drive all the way to Santa Monica to see it, which took almost an hour to get there, and almost 2 hours to get home. And, they are doing tons of construction so it was a HUGE hassle, but I didn't mind that too much, I just wanted to support my GLBT friends by supporting a movie about GLBT people.
But, now that I've seen it, I'm kind of not sure what to think about it... I like that someone put money behind making this film, but I'm kind of pissed that one of the lesbian women has sex with the straight guy in this movie... I think if someone is a lesbian and has been in a marriage type relationship for 20+ years, it's not incredibly likely she is going to cheat with some guy. Why would she suddenly jump to a man?? Why not show her tempted by another woman?? Or Why add that to the story at all, it was certainly interesting enough to watch these two moms trying to deal with the idea of having a man (any man) in their kids lives. (For some reason, this film acted like there was no such thing as grandparents or aunts and uncles, but that's fine, whatever...)
And, also, I feel kind of like this movie is saying that meeting your sperm or egg donor as an adult is taking a risk at ruining your family that you love. If this daughter had never gotten in touch with this sperm donor, he never would have slept with one of her moms, which nearly destroyed their family. At the end of the movie, the children have both rejected the sperm donor, and the moms have both made it clear to him that he is not a part of the family... There is one tiny gesture made by the daughter that COULD indicate she may speak to him again someday, but he has no resolution and is simply ejected from the lives of these two kids that he has spent a lot of time getting to know, and getting attached to. I think it's sad to make this kind of statement. I thought he was kind of a decent guy, he hadn't settled down with anyone and learned during the movie that he does want to settle down, so he did some growing during the film, and that growth was thrown away in the ending of this story, I think...
*sigh*
Maybe I just think too much... What do you think about this film?? Did you watch it? Do you want to watch it? I'm super curious to hear some other people's takes on it! :D
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
HW 316/ SW 264/ CW 187/ GW 158
Haven't seen it yet, but plan to...It is pretty typical to have the lesbian sleep with a man in mainstream movies...somehow I think it is supposed to make it "alright" with the mainstream audience? It used to really tick me off, but these days I use my energy for more constructive things.
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That's probably smart... Smarter than I am anyway... Although I am technically part of the mainstream audience this is supposed to be placating and it irritates me... I don't see how a love story between two women or two men is any different than a love story between a man and a woman.
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
HW 316/ SW 264/ CW 187/ GW 158
I was really disappointed with their choice to show the lesbian sleeping with the man... I just thought it was totally unnecessary...
I'm sorry if I spoiled it for you... I was really excited about seeing the movie, but it left me not loving it anywhere near as much as I thought I was going to...
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
I'm sorry if I spoiled it for you... I was really excited about seeing the movie, but it left me not loving it anywhere near as much as I thought I was going to...
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
HW 316/ SW 264/ CW 187/ GW 158
Fantastic movie!
Although she labels herself as "lesbian", the character is clearly not completely a 6 on the Kinsey scale, and is probably a 6 (a hint of bisexuality), as she said "human sexuality is complex".
However... I absolutely do not get how or why they had them watching and getting off to a man on man porn movie. What was that all about? Call me naive... but does that really happen? I can't imagine two homosexual men watching a lesbian ***** movie to get off to. And her explanation of not wanting to watch two straight women pretending to be lesbian just seemed hokie.
Thoughts?
Although she labels herself as "lesbian", the character is clearly not completely a 6 on the Kinsey scale, and is probably a 6 (a hint of bisexuality), as she said "human sexuality is complex".
However... I absolutely do not get how or why they had them watching and getting off to a man on man porn movie. What was that all about? Call me naive... but does that really happen? I can't imagine two homosexual men watching a lesbian ***** movie to get off to. And her explanation of not wanting to watch two straight women pretending to be lesbian just seemed hokie.
Thoughts?
Don
If she would have self identified as being bi, it wouldn't have bothered me as much for sure...
I definitely thought it was weird that they were watching gay men porn... But, it didn't seem like either one of them was actually getting off to it... I didn't know if I bought her reasoning on that one, and I don't really have any experience in a lesbian relationship, so I have no idea if that really happens...
I kind of shrugged it off because I didn't know if that was accurate or not...
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
I definitely thought it was weird that they were watching gay men porn... But, it didn't seem like either one of them was actually getting off to it... I didn't know if I bought her reasoning on that one, and I don't really have any experience in a lesbian relationship, so I have no idea if that really happens...
I kind of shrugged it off because I didn't know if that was accurate or not...
Huggles!!
~Sarah~
HW 316/ SW 264/ CW 187/ GW 158
I can't wait to see it, so I pretty much skipped over most of your post. :p
The lesbian couples I know went the anonymous donor route. One couple (and the woman who carried the child is bi) still went to the clinic so that the child would be theirs without any interference. I think Hollywood is addicted to the "lesbians will sleep with men" theme because male directors (and a lot of males in general) like to think that a good man can turn someone. Idiots.
Funny enough, I know blended families via my polyamory group, and it all seems to work out.
The lesbian couples I know went the anonymous donor route. One couple (and the woman who carried the child is bi) still went to the clinic so that the child would be theirs without any interference. I think Hollywood is addicted to the "lesbians will sleep with men" theme because male directors (and a lot of males in general) like to think that a good man can turn someone. Idiots.
Funny enough, I know blended families via my polyamory group, and it all seems to work out.
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