Weird things are happening...

Just a question for my fellow 'butches' out there....Did any of you find your 'butchness' fading as you lost weight?
I am in a situation right now where I have gone from 376lbs to 240lbs and just don't feel like me anymore. I don't have the confidence I had before nor do I feel like I am as butch as I once was.
Any thoughts? 

Hey Welcome aboard the SSWTF! I too have been struggling with this same issue for a while- so much of my essence was tied up into my size that becoming smaller didn't really fit with that.

I was afraid that I was going to turn into a little tiny girl, but thankfully I have a large bone structure and a wonderful friend gave me a weightlifting routine to help me get some muscles back (sore muscles make me feel GOOD!) .

I still feel as butch as ever, but it took me some time to get into a good head space. I'm just now getting to the point where I like the face I see looking back at me...some people actually think I'm attractive! Unreal!!

Keep thinking about it, and working on figuring out who you are now...you're still you, but an improved version. If you wanna be butch, be butch if you wanna be femme then swing away- find what makes you happy, cuz no one else is gonna do it for ya!

Giving you a big butch handshake filled with positive thoughts!

 sorry but you are a cutie..

old butch jude

Awww thanks Jude- you just made my flippin' day! 

My g/f is butch and her butchness shined after she lost all the weight!!! She buzzed all her hair off and changed her style.

I am not one of your fellow butches but for me, it's been the opposite.  Starting out at 450 and now 170, the more weight i lose, the less feminine i feel. I never considered myself to be ultra femme anyway. 
This may be TMI but I'm a very aggressive femme in bed and now I am even more. 
For the past year, I've been slowly changing my clothes and hair. I feel so much more comfortable in "butch clothes". For the past week, I have been thinking of either cutting my hair off, keep it braided in a not so feminine style or starting dreadlocks.
The last few times that I went to the club, i went very butch and was loving the attention that I got from femmes but still I don't have much confidence.
I feel like I'm living this double life. I have to be more feminine around my *****y mom so I don't have to hear her mouth and even though my butch partner doesn't say much about my changes, i know she doesn't like it. I'm more attracted to what we call "soft studs". Not too hard and not to soft.

This has been my latest issue and struggle. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one going through this.

Thanks for sharing and listening. WOW, i feel better getting that out. I feel like i was in confessional or on the couch talking to a shrink! LOL

 Thanks for the replies everyone. I don't know what it is but I have always been super butch since birth basically and I've noticed i don't walk with my swagger anymore. My walk has become way more feminine as well as my mannerism. It's blowing my mind a little. That mixed with the loss of confidence just has me uncomfortable. 
I agree with the being who you are but it's harder than that when you are with someone who loves you but is attracted to a certain 'type.' Not to say she will love me less but I don't know about the attraction. She has a thing for chubby butch girls. Not only am I losing weight and not being as chubby but I'm not as butch as I once was either.

Ok that ends my rant.

 When you come home with the high heels you'll know you're in trouble...

You swaggered because your had fatter legs. For the first time in YEARS there is a space between my legs..who knew???
What's a feminine walk anyway? The hips thing? 

take it easy..

j

While I certainly don't speak for all femmes out there, as much as your partner has a "thing" for chubby butch women, I'm sure that, somewhere inside, she also has a "thing" for having an active and healthy partner who will live for a very long time. 

It might take a while to figure out how to navigate your new personal space with your different body, but don't worry about it so much.  You do not have an obligation to be a certain "type" for anyone else, but you do have an obligation to live an authentic life and be as good to yourself as possible. 

Very interesting post here.  This is my opinion and mine alone, so keep that in mind.  Being bisexual I find that woman who are a little butch attract me and men that are a little fem attract me.  I don't know why.  It's almost like a KD Lang thing in her suit (in the video constant craving) or a very sensitive or even gay man.  Prior to me meeting my wife (14 yrs. strong) I was in love with a gay guy for two years even though I knew he didn't want a woman!  I consider myself to be mostly femme and that's how I feel comfortable.  I don't really wear dresses but I love doing makeup, dressing up in "pretty things", etc.  How does this relate to what you were asking...I'm getting there.
So, you've lost a LOT of weight.  Losing weight, as we all know spawns very different feelings in all of us.  You have to figure out with your new body what feels right to you.  If you don't feel like shaving your hair off or dressing butch...then don't.  The person you are with may be attracted to heavy butch girls but if she really loves YOU then it shouldn't matter to her.  I love my wifey whether she puts on her football jersey and jeans or whether she decides to go for a flowery shirt and some dress slacks.  It doesn't matter to me.  She's beautiful either way.  If someone truly loves you it should be the insides they are in love with.  The outsides are merely just props.
That is one of the reasons I can proudly say, yes, I am bisexual (even though my wife screams...you've been with a woman for 14 years...you're a lesbian).  No.  I am attracted to what is on the inside.  After years of being hurt all I wanted was someone to treat me right, to love me unconditionally, to grow old with.  Thank god I found it in her, but had it been a man...would that have made me straight?  I think not.
Ok, I'm rambling...time to reign it in.  Look, what I'm trying to say is be comfortable with who YOU are.  If your partner doesn't approve then she really doesn't love you.  At that point ask yourself, don't I deserve better?

Peace, love and happiness to all of you!!!