Another one....

Yep, here I stand another WLS failed relationship. It wasn't the surgery that brought about the end to my partner and I, but it did bring to surface a lot of things that I had been hiding with food.

Well no more hiding, I'm leading a healthy life and I wish her the best on her own journey. We still have the whole moving out debacle to deal with, but I'm staying with my folks for a while to get some space.

I'm extremely depressed about the whole thing, but instead of running to McD's I'm just running and eating according to plan....at least that feels good.

OH **** Inkd, I'm so sorry.  I wish I was good at these types of situations to say just the right thing, but, I know you have lots of friends here that think the world of you and for sure wish you happiness- whatever it takes to get it.  Again, I'm sorry for your pain and i pray it doesn't last :(  Take care of yourself, keep up the good work (you look BANGIN) and you know you have everyone here on OH. 

Thanks Jill, I think you did say the right thing- you showed me some love and that's what I need!

Yeah, we are soooo over. We kinda broke up last week- I thought I would give it another shot and then it just got worse. I am not opposed to getting together later in the future, but things would have to be waaay different.

Danni,

I'm so proud of you for standing up for what you want and need.  I know how hard it is and you know I'm here for you, my friend.  I'm REALLY proud of you for sticking to your healthy life now... you truly are an inspiration to me to stay on my healthy journey.  We are so hittin' that hill on Friday!  Oh, and you know my boys are really great for helping out with the depression.  They told me they can't wait to spend a week cuddling & playing with their Auntie Danni!

I'm here anytime (and yes even for those 2am drive by's!)  lol 

~M

Thanks Maryn I'm so lucky to have you as a friend! Making me stop moping and taking me out was the best thing and I appreciate you and your awesome partner so much. Also I'm pumped to kick that hills butt and then cuddle with my nephews!!!

How long were you guys together?

It amazes me and fascinates me how MUCH relationships (whether it be friendships or marriages) change after WLS.

And WE were one of those relationships too!! After my surgery and I hit goal I was beyond DONE with my partner. I was making huge changes and she was stuffing her face day in and day out - yeah, I'm honest like that! I continued inviting her to my support groups and when she made the commitment to have surgery ...our relationship did a complete 360. She is like 7 months out now and it's been really good for the last 9 months or so. We reconnected. And I think we are seeing NEW sides to each other that we didn't see before surgery ...and that's exciting too!! Instead of always eating like we did before ..which was depressing and gross. We are doing new fun things!! The atmosphere in this house has been pretty darn good! 

I think when there are 2 obese people in a relationship and only 1 of them makes a change for the better while the other continues to just make bad choices ...it's going to go nowhere but bad.

Yep, 2 years and in the past year everything has slowly changed- or rather I have. I hope she can someday see that I am not the right person for her, but that someone wonderful is out there, but I don't think it's me....

Getting healthy can sometimes be very painful, but we do learn from it. Look at it this way, you're no longer in a toxic relationship...the both of you were probably feeding each others addictions-physically and mentally.
Here's hoping you continue to do well, and you will find a healthy relationship someday.