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I'm curious to know at what point in a relationship do you tell the person that you had weight loss surgery?

Well..Im already in a relationship and have been for 3 years but I tell everyone so if I started a new relationship that person would know like on day 1. I feel like I don't have anything to hide and I love sharing my story with anyone who will listen.

I'm totally with Brooke on that (although I'm single.)  My surgery is the best decision that I ever made and if talking to 100 people about it inspires 1 person to change their life, then I'm very happy.  Its part of who I am and when I'm dating a woman, she gets to know all of me.  Plus, I'm only 7 months out (today) and I still have those adorable little scars.  She'll see them. 

My scars are very visible and I even display a pre-op picture of myself in my apartment. It's who I am. I pretty much tell everyone as soon as they become close. I don't think I've ever had a bad reaction.

I'm really open about my surgery, so no matter what type of relationship, either friendship or more personal...I tell them when right away. My surgery is a part of who I am now, and I thinks it's really important to be open and honest about it!

thanks all for your input!  We actually have not met in person yet, we met online.  I've been talking to her for about a month now.  I guess I just feel weird telling her before meeting her in person.
what do u think? should I wait to meet in person and then tell her?

I told people when I was actively researching surgery and when I was really involved in my program as it consumed much of my thought process and time. As I get much closer to my goal and I'm further out from my surgery date, i don't know that I tell everyone. If people ask me why I eat small portions, then I would tell them. I am very proud of my success. I keep photos of what I looked like before surgery in my home to remind me of where my journey started and to keep me from getting complacent.

I don't know if you need to tell her about your surgery before you go on your first date but I think before you two move in together, you might want to tell her. If she notices that you're eating smaller meals, that's a great thing, isn't it? It means she's observant. My partner and I often split a meal when we go out.

I think communication is the cornerstone of a successful relationship. When it starts with secrets, eventually someone starts to wonder what other things you are secretive about. "I don't see why they need to know." Sort of reminds me of why I tried to justify not coming out to people. She probably likes you for you and not your portion sizes.

I have been wondering the same thing myself. I recently began communicating with someone online and am supposed to meet him when he gets back to FL in 2 weeks. I am not sure if this is something he needs to know about me before he even meets me or not. I don't want to freak him out. Wait till he finds out I am going to Mexico for plastic surgery in June, that wil really scare him off ha ha.

Kevin

Thanks again for all of your input.  We talked on the phone today and I told her.  It came up in conversation because she works at the same hospital where I had the surgery.  She works in the same place where I went to the aftercare program, she just works in a different area. So it's a small world!!!! :) I'm glad I told her and she seemed to still want to talk to me after that , so it's a good thing :) 

So Kevin maybe it will come up in conversation somehow for you too :) 

That turned out pretty neat. Funny how that happens. Maybe I will be as lucky too. Good luck with this new relationship and keep us posted!