5th month blues
I am in my 5th month of the 6 month waiting period. I am in a very fragile state at the moment. I am at the point where all of my past diets failed and I feel a relapse coming on. Dear Goddess help me! With Thanksgiving being last week ( I had some of my favorite things) and grocery shopping yesterday ( the potato chip devil got me there) I am starting to have terrible cravings for foods that I haven't had for 5 months. Just driving by Taco Bell and Golden Corral makes me quiver. I want to put gallons of Cake Batter Ice Creme from Coldstone in the middle of the floor and do a swan dive into the middle of it.I wish I could do the 2 finger Karen Carpenter diet but it just can't bring myself to it. Food is an addiction and there ain't nobody who can tell me different. SOMEBODY PLEASE PASS ME MY DIET PILLS!
As you can see I am on the verge and need some HELP!
As you can see I am on the verge and need some HELP!
sfnativewm
on 12/4/09 12:45 am
on 12/4/09 12:45 am
Hang in there!!! We have all been in that horrific mode!! I did try something that helped me and that was whenever I wanted to eat off the hook, I ate a few bites of tuna..............yuck!!! LOL it helped me a lot to try not to eat!!!! Your 6 months will be here sooner than you think!!!
p.s. Thanks for the coldstone idea!!! I just laughed my ass off!!
p.s. Thanks for the coldstone idea!!! I just laughed my ass off!!
~Ann~
Band removed and feeling alive with energy!
ok... first of all... breathe... breathe... and then breathe some more. All of us have struggled with weight for years. The struggle you're dealing with now is so very normal. food is very much of an addiction that we all have. other addictions are easier to deal with... you dont need drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes to survive. So people who are addicted to those things learn how to stop using those things and they can survive. We cannot survive without the substance we are addicted to. We need food to survive. so we need to majorly deal with the addiction while we are learning how to eat in a healthy way vs. a destructive way.
5 months down in your waiting period. you're doing great. all of us have had our version of the cake batter ice cream swan dive. when i was pre-op i often reached out to my friends... and never missed a session with my therapist. find something that give you joy and do it often. for me, it's singing. in the months before my surgery i booked a lot of performances. i even made my life long dream come true and flew to NY to perform in Carnegie Hall.
most of all, remember that you're not alone. we're all here and we're all in this together. keep breathing and your surgery is just around the corner.
5 months down in your waiting period. you're doing great. all of us have had our version of the cake batter ice cream swan dive. when i was pre-op i often reached out to my friends... and never missed a session with my therapist. find something that give you joy and do it often. for me, it's singing. in the months before my surgery i booked a lot of performances. i even made my life long dream come true and flew to NY to perform in Carnegie Hall.
most of all, remember that you're not alone. we're all here and we're all in this together. keep breathing and your surgery is just around the corner.
Our little miracle baby boy is on his way!
MusicMaryn nailed it. Breathing's a great place to start, and knowing that you're just like everyone else who has struggled through this. I remember how much it sucked.
My advice isn't for everyone, but what worked for me were video games. I picked up Soul Calibur 4 and Left 4 Dead and went to town - played whenever the craving**** me, went online and beat up teenaged kids and sublimated my food desires with that. Totally worked for me.
Also, talking stuff out with friends and being more aggressive towards solving frustrations at work really turned things around for me. Thanks to my realizing that I turned to food when friction popped up I was able to attack the cause of the friction instead. this has led to me being more respected than ever at work and my being closer to all of my awesome friends.
This incredibly annoying phase may be the perfect opportunity to help you figure out what the annoyances are in your life that trigger your food desires.
Just a thought!
My advice isn't for everyone, but what worked for me were video games. I picked up Soul Calibur 4 and Left 4 Dead and went to town - played whenever the craving**** me, went online and beat up teenaged kids and sublimated my food desires with that. Totally worked for me.
Also, talking stuff out with friends and being more aggressive towards solving frustrations at work really turned things around for me. Thanks to my realizing that I turned to food when friction popped up I was able to attack the cause of the friction instead. this has led to me being more respected than ever at work and my being closer to all of my awesome friends.
This incredibly annoying phase may be the perfect opportunity to help you figure out what the annoyances are in your life that trigger your food desires.
Just a thought!
Thank you all for the words of encouragement. I have taken 3 deep breaths and doing better now. Most of my friends who have always been around still have a tendency to want to have eating as a sport. Come over and eat. Let's go out and eat. I keep reminding friends that I am on this journey which doesn't include stuffing myself every time we get together. I need to be a bit more vocal about what I need.
My vice would be to find a man. Most of the men who want me do so because I'm a big boy. So I really don't think now is the time to start a relationship.
Anyway, thank you all for your kind words.
My vice would be to find a man. Most of the men who want me do so because I'm a big boy. So I really don't think now is the time to start a relationship.
Anyway, thank you all for your kind words.
Tony - I tried the "2 finger Karen Carpenter diet" for 17 years - like all other diets it only helped when I stayed on it! And In the end I failed anyway ... I know I am a spineless, veak despicable person, with no character, values and selfrespect - who just want the easy way out and is too stupid to figure out that eating less and exercising more will make - thinner, beautiful and loveable and get me a harem of lovers ....
You have reached the stage were your body's homeostasis - tell you this famine have lasted too long - but yet your eyes see all this food everywhere ... So it must just be headhunger and food addiction - Right?
It is totally silly that insurance companies demand a 6 month diet ... if they based their decision on scientific reaserch they would know that the longer morbidly obese person stay on a diet - the more they regain ... but insurance companies think about profit and money and not your best interest. I hope you can stand it one more month - and make a determined effort to stuff yourself with healthy foods like lean meat, fish and poultry and plenty of veggies and fruits and a limited amount of high fibre bread and lean dairy products.
I am happy that I do not have the perverted American food culture on overy other street corner - that would mean a lot of temptations to eat high fructose corn syrup, trans fat and other sorts of crappie foods that does nothing for you. (In proverbs it says - to the hungry - even whats bitter, tastes sweet - and with abominations like Taco Bell, McD, and other slowdeath places willing to serve you it is harder.
Even if you stuck to eating the things I just told you to eat - you had more than 95 percent of failing eventually. This is why we need bariatric surgery! I sure hope that the restriction, combined with the malabosorption the surgery gives - will be a help - and hopefully punish me if I eat too much sugar and fat (only 60 percent chance of that though - even though I am a sucker for punishments and E.I. kept trying to loose weight on lifestyle changes and diets ...
No more - hang in there and look forward to getting the surgical help and endure a little longer ... Also sounds to me, that your social life needs a little adjustements too ... it is possible to spend time together with out eating ... or at least eating healthy homecooked meals together. I just know that if I lived in USA it would be a huge adjustement - if I had gotten used to the deadly convenience of all the crap sold everywhere ... and cheap too - much cheaper than good home cooked meals with real nutritional value. Here a pint of Ben and Jerrys ice cream cost 10 dollars!!! And a mcD meal 12-15 dollars and a Pizza delivered - at least 25 dollars. So most people make an effort to eat homecooked healthy meals.
After surgery I can still enjoy food - even icecream like this theworldaccordingtoeggface.blogspot.com/2008/08/protein-ice- cream.html but probably only max. 4-6 oz.
I hope you will hang in there - and look at all the things you are gaining longterm - not the stuff you will miss - even though I do understand cravings for crappie food that only filled an eternal expanding void. It did not work for me ...
You have reached the stage were your body's homeostasis - tell you this famine have lasted too long - but yet your eyes see all this food everywhere ... So it must just be headhunger and food addiction - Right?
It is totally silly that insurance companies demand a 6 month diet ... if they based their decision on scientific reaserch they would know that the longer morbidly obese person stay on a diet - the more they regain ... but insurance companies think about profit and money and not your best interest. I hope you can stand it one more month - and make a determined effort to stuff yourself with healthy foods like lean meat, fish and poultry and plenty of veggies and fruits and a limited amount of high fibre bread and lean dairy products.
I am happy that I do not have the perverted American food culture on overy other street corner - that would mean a lot of temptations to eat high fructose corn syrup, trans fat and other sorts of crappie foods that does nothing for you. (In proverbs it says - to the hungry - even whats bitter, tastes sweet - and with abominations like Taco Bell, McD, and other slowdeath places willing to serve you it is harder.
Even if you stuck to eating the things I just told you to eat - you had more than 95 percent of failing eventually. This is why we need bariatric surgery! I sure hope that the restriction, combined with the malabosorption the surgery gives - will be a help - and hopefully punish me if I eat too much sugar and fat (only 60 percent chance of that though - even though I am a sucker for punishments and E.I. kept trying to loose weight on lifestyle changes and diets ...
No more - hang in there and look forward to getting the surgical help and endure a little longer ... Also sounds to me, that your social life needs a little adjustements too ... it is possible to spend time together with out eating ... or at least eating healthy homecooked meals together. I just know that if I lived in USA it would be a huge adjustement - if I had gotten used to the deadly convenience of all the crap sold everywhere ... and cheap too - much cheaper than good home cooked meals with real nutritional value. Here a pint of Ben and Jerrys ice cream cost 10 dollars!!! And a mcD meal 12-15 dollars and a Pizza delivered - at least 25 dollars. So most people make an effort to eat homecooked healthy meals.
After surgery I can still enjoy food - even icecream like this theworldaccordingtoeggface.blogspot.com/2008/08/protein-ice- cream.html but probably only max. 4-6 oz.
I hope you will hang in there - and look at all the things you are gaining longterm - not the stuff you will miss - even though I do understand cravings for crappie food that only filled an eternal expanding void. It did not work for me ...
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