my wow moment

I have lost 57 pounds, 25 pounds before surgery, and 32 since. I tried on a pair of my gf jeans, and they fit! My gf wasn't happy with me trying on her clothes and says she doesn't want me wearing her things. Well, I didn't want to wear it I was just curious if they would fit. It was a wow moment for me, but she seemed irritated.

So many posts here and other boards about competition and feeling threatened by our changes. Our wows can seem like evidence that we won't need them anymore or they won't be good enough. It can also bring our competition we never had to deal with before when we were bigger and they were smaller. If she is scared then it will be importnt to try to talk it our with her. If it is the green eyed monster you have to figure out how to define the new boundaries between you guys and then, most importantly, what your own needs are... they will be changing. Anyone else have the experience of having your emotional and physical self change in ways you don't know how to recognize or deal with?

Yeah, my girlfriend and I have swapped sizes and she hates it. I wear her jeans and she wears mine and it makes her so depressed. It's hard cuz I'm so happy that I've dropped from a 34 to 24, but she's done the opposite (which I would be upset about too). It's one of those sticky situations!

It's a good thing that my gf will exercise and try to eat healthy with me. I think it scares her that I will be passing her with the weight loss. I do love her the way she is, but I would hate it if she gained weight, especially where I was.

Well, that's exactly what happened to us. My gf gained almost all the weight so far- but I'm doing as Caro said and I'm being patient, loving and understanding....

hey mamma that is awesome congrats