OT: My Marriage is Over
We love you, sweetie *hug*
I've never been able to hold down a relationship for even a fifth of that long, so I cannot truly imagine what you're going through.
I know you're probably in a whirlwind mix of loneliness and uncertainty as far as what the future holds.
But I CAN say this. You've taken a step to change yourself from a state that for whatever reasons, weren't working out for you. The universe is opening up for change (both painful and not), and you're taking the plunges. Your mutual decision was a courageous one, and shows just how much you are willing to break out of your current known comfort level to embrace a new life. The friends will come. Soon as you raise your head up from your necessary relationship mourning period, hopefully you'll be out and about doing things and unwittingly meeting people. Support group meetings, bellydance classes (i know, i know, i can't help it though i think everyone needs to go!), picking up a new hobby, becoming more active. New people will come and go, you're lucky to still have her as a good friend, and moreso, she's lucky to have you.
Hang in there, good things are coming your way. Gotta stick through this poopie part, though *sigh*.
I've never been able to hold down a relationship for even a fifth of that long, so I cannot truly imagine what you're going through.
I know you're probably in a whirlwind mix of loneliness and uncertainty as far as what the future holds.
But I CAN say this. You've taken a step to change yourself from a state that for whatever reasons, weren't working out for you. The universe is opening up for change (both painful and not), and you're taking the plunges. Your mutual decision was a courageous one, and shows just how much you are willing to break out of your current known comfort level to embrace a new life. The friends will come. Soon as you raise your head up from your necessary relationship mourning period, hopefully you'll be out and about doing things and unwittingly meeting people. Support group meetings, bellydance classes (i know, i know, i can't help it though i think everyone needs to go!), picking up a new hobby, becoming more active. New people will come and go, you're lucky to still have her as a good friend, and moreso, she's lucky to have you.
Hang in there, good things are coming your way. Gotta stick through this poopie part, though *sigh*.
Oh Mimi my heart goes out to you! But you're right- be glad you aren't having to deal with the stress of the surgery on top of this. Take care of yourself and re-find the things that you once enjoyed alone.
Good Luck,
danni
Good Luck,
danni
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on 10/1/09 3:37 am
on 10/1/09 3:37 am
Sending you a big hug!!! I remember many moons ago going through a breakup after 11 years!!! (curled up in a ball rocking and a crying)
I am proud to say as awful and painful as it was I am a better person for it, have a wonderful partner now and also remembered to open my world to more people in my life! I am a much happier and better person as well.
Hang in there and feel free to vent away as it will help with the healing process!! and above all remember to BE KIND TO YOURSELF!!
~Ann~
Band removed and feeling alive with energy!
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