Strange Question

 I was talking to a good colleague at work today about my upcoming RNY and just as I thought we were finished with the conversation, she asked me if I would still be "warm and fuzzy" after I lost all my weight or if I would be "all skinny and harsh and mean."

This was a totally unexpected.  It actually kind of had me speachless for a while.  So I told her that I hoped I would be all skinny one day, but I had no expectation that my personality would change. 

It's just making me think a lot about how my being fat for so long has become, for others, an intrinsic part of my personality for them.  It also makes me think a little more about other people's fears about my relationship with them changing.

Anyway, her question is lingering with me and I just wondered what you all thought about it and if any of you had any similar reactions from people. 

Well for me ..my personality has changed and someone actually said I'm a total ***** now, but actually I think I'm more confident which REALLY means to that person I'm just not the shy, quiet person letting people walk all over me anymore. Make sense? 

I think ..when I was fat ..I would do/say anything to keep friends around. I was usually the goofy one, or the one that could never say no.

I guess everyone is different. I still get depressed about how I look (don't think that will ever change) but overall I feel like I'm a better person and I guess I'll see how that plays into my friendships.

I used to think I was invisible in the world, thus had to try hard to be noticed (success, genuine etc.).  But, I realized this week that I am actually invisible NOW in the world.  No one notices me positively or negatively . . . I am just another acceptable individual in the landscape. 

I now believe when super morbidly obese I was actually actively shunned out in the world except by those who knew me well.  My relationships with those individuals (friends, peers, co-workers) has not changed at all.

I am still pretty nice. But like Brooke, I am more confidant and don't let people push me around anymore.

Great question!!  I have found that I am more outgoing and it is easier for me to make choices!   I don't think I will ever be a mean skinny ***** but I will strive to be a happier woman, not allowing myself to be taken advantage of.
I just want to be a good person, and helpful to others that have suffered with weightloss problems etc!

I've always been a ***** 

I love you

The feeling is mutual. 

  I wanna be like you when I grow up.