I'm gay because i'm overweight?

So I was in a bar a few weeks ago ,while on vacation, with my Aunt. I don't see her that often and I told her recently that I was a lesbian which she was very accepting. Well after a few hours and quite a few beers ;) she started asking me questions about being a lesbian. You know the whole "Why use toys if you don't like penises" and all those fun questions.  Well her next question was " Do you think if you weren't heavy that you would still be a lesbian?" I sat there explaining that I wasn't gay because i am overweight. I've been with men in the past and it's not my thing. It has nothing to do with how much I weigh. So that got me thinking...Do people think that just because we're overweight we can't get someone and we have to turn to being gay? Made me a little upset that people think like that. Have you had this experience?

OMG ..my Mom asked me the same thing!!! About toys and all too!!! But we are open like that so whatever. I was like "uhh it's not about toys, it's about the connection I have with women" ..and that ended it.

I will say that when I was BIG I felt like the only people I could attract were BIG people - whether it be male or female. So yeah ..sometimes I think I "settled" on whoever would accept me and all my fat.

But I'm skinny now and still pretty darn gay LOL!

Hahaha...that's funny...People and their questions..lol. I understand what you're saying about the settling on whoever accepts you. For me I think I tried to use my personality to cover up my weight. I was always trying to be the funny one and that's how I attracted most of the people I went out with.

This may be bad to admit but I LMAO when I read this. Some people just don't get it. Someone asked me if I would leave Mark after I lost weight and get someone better looking. I was like Ummm NO! I love the man to pieces and not just cause I was heavy.

Haha Yeah I didn't know if I should reach over and hit her or sit there and try to drill it into her head...Since she's family and all, I chose the non violent route. Now, if it were some random stranger I can't say what would have happened...hahaha

Wow.... I can't help but think of this clip from Little Britain

Seriously... it's word for word LOL


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUWONUpeTEw

Tony, I loved the vid. I have never seen that one.

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yup!  Had conversations about this many, many years ago when I came out to my Mom and my Aunt.  Both of them held firm to their convictions that I was a lesbian because I was fat...and if I were only thin - I could get a man.

They just couldn't understand that women were really my desire.  It was so hard for them to relate to that so they just kept assuming that I was making an inferior "choice" because of what they perceived as limitations as a result of my weight.

All I can say is that I remember those conversations as being exhausting!