hi, introducing myself

Hi there everyone, I am Ann, and wanted to introduce myself to this board. I am bi currently married to a great guy and was with my girlfriend for 9 years. we are still friends thank goodness, ... my hubby is gay friendly..
I had my surgery 7 mo. ago, and its the best thing I ever did.  I live in Michigan, and have a daughter, I cannot see because I am the non bio mom. long story, our donor, was a dear friend of ours, and begged us to use his donattion as a gift... he hired a lawyer and established paternity. I raised our daughter the first 5 years, stay at home mom. a wonderful mom and now no one will let me see her. sorry for the rant. I was thinking coming over here, maybe someone might relate to this. Its a shame. ..i didnt mean to bring this drama, i just need some support and friends that might understand. my ex is in prison. apparently for attempted murder of the donor (we were broke up at that time) and now donor has her. I have begged, bargained, etc, (he hates me because I am the threat) and refuses to aknowledge me, or let me see my daughter, and she wants to see me too. I hope I am not putting anyone off. Its such an emotional thing for me right now, and going throughj all of my changes with the weight loss, etc, I really need some friends who can listen. and I know, I am a good friend as well. I have one lawyer, locally, referred to me by lambda, who MIGHT be able to help me, I am going to try to raise the money yes, raise the money so she can help. ok enough of the rant. thank you for listening. Hugs to all, any feedback is warmly welcomed,
Ann

Hi Ann..Welcome to our forum!
 
I hope that someone here can be of some help to you. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through, but my heart goes out to you. I wish you the best, and I hope that something good happens soon, and you and your daughter can be reunited....*HUGS*

P.S...Congrats on your surgery..

Ann, welcome to our little corner of OH.  I am sorry that you are having legal issues concerning your daughter.  My wife and I are the proud parents of a 10 year old who was conceived via a "good friend" donor.  We are lucky that we are not having such problems.  But, we protected ourselves before even attempting the artificial insemination, by having him signing a contract stating that we were buying his sperm for the grand sum of $5 and relinquishing parental rights to any children conceived.  Immediately after our daughter was born, I legally adopted our daughter, therefore, my wife and I are both her legal parents.

I say this, just to give anyone out there considering such a route to parenthood the information they need to legally protect themselves.

Good luck in everything.

Welcome to this board! You will get lots of support here!

Connie 

thank you so very much kind friends. hugs back at ya,
ann

Hi Ann:

What a mess, I am so sorry! First of all I hope you are at least somewhere like Ann Arbor!! I little more gay friendly (my family is in Flint, well actually Burton..)

I have a fantastic 13 year old boy, the center of my universe, and I am best friends with is Dad, not to mention full legal and physical custoy, thank God.  But I do want to share a mini story that will hopefully help you keep the faith. My friend met a woman who was in the process of trying to get pregnant with an anonymous donor, when they met. The other woman got pregnant, gave birth to twins. When they broke up (after 5 years of raising the kids together) the birth mother refused to let the non birth mother see them.. LONG story very short.. Fast forward 5 years, my friend (the non birth mother) now has full legal and physical custody and the birth mother can only have supervised visitation... Hang in there.

Best wishes,
Heather