OT: Ex girlfriend all of a sudden reappears

So I'm all excited about my upcoming surgery.. in fact i've been obsessed about researching and preparing for it.  My life was going good and then all of a sudden my ex girlfriend/fiance decides to start sending me text messages (even though I did not respond to them).  She states she "found out" that I'm having surgery (not sure how, probably from my myspace page) and she's proud of me and she wishes she could be there to support me.  She says to tell my family hi and she loves and misses them.  Then she decides to send me pictures of her new adopted son (knowing how bad I wanted a child while we were together) whom she adopted with her current girlfriend.  

For some reason, my insides are hurting.  I feel depressed, upset, and uneasy.  I have no idea why.  She screwed me over so bad in the past.  I do have an urge to reach out to her because I do miss her, she was a HUGE part of my life up until about 8 months ago. 

I was doing fine without her in my life.  I'm some what angry she wants to contact me.  What is the reason??? 

Depressed...

She is being a total ***** it sounds like. I mean sending pics of her new son, talking about how much she misses you, basically trying to get back in your life. Right now is a tough time in your life (I am guessing from my experience) and you don't need any more stess in your life. I would ignore her texts and tell her to leave you alone. Good luck with this.

OMG, the same thing happened to me! She "found" me on Facebook and right now I'm not even using my last name there LOL! I accepted her friends request though so she can see how better I look and how happy I am without her LOL!

What you said sounds kind of immature of her. I would blow her off.

This is your moment in life!!  I suggest not responding and prepare for your new life and new beginnings!!

My ex was calling for weeks after she moved out...every morning at work I knew my first call was from her.  Thing was she left me and moved in with a couple of our friends who were together and one of which I thought my ex was having an affair with.  Anyway, I finally told her she made a decision and that meant she didn't have any right calling me and to stop calling.  Well, it turns out I was right...she ended up with one of my former friends and that woman left her almost 3 years to the day...LOL. 

If I had your ex, I would tell her "glad to see you're happy.  Me too.  Take care and don't contact me again."

Get rid of the baggage and focus on you!!  This is your time!

Brid 

What is it with us lesbians!  All this lingering... and coming back to...and never letting go...and the let's just be friends thing....GHEESH! 

There were, no doubt, good reasons for the breaking up....keep it that way!  Move on with your new life without the old baggage of that relationship - new outlook on life- new body-new girlfriends!!!!

Now that's something to get excited about.

I know...easeir said than done.  I jsut wish my friends had given me that advice in the past.

Good Luck!

Nadine

Thank you all for your support!!  I love the OH community!!  I'm feeling much better about the situation.. focusing on ME again!!

What is it with us lesbians!  All this lingering... and coming back to...and never letting go...and the let's just be friends thing....GHEESH! 

LMAONadine. I think it's a woman thing. I'm the same way.

She is a VERY selfish person. Some people just cant stand to see others happy and doing well for themselves because THEY aren't happy with themselves. Its unfortunate but thats how things go. You have so much to look forward to in the next few months and you dont need someone like that bringing you down. Sending you pictures of her son is just spiteful and mean. Just keep your head up and dont let her get you down. You need to be mentally prepared for the changes about to happen to you and you dont need her dragging you down! And if you need to vent or anything just let me know! Good luck on everything!

Kick her in the ****

ETA:  Hello, neighbor!!!  Isn't Dr. F fabulous???