OT: Wedding ettiquette

Hi all -

Just got an invitation to a friend's wedding in July.  I don't have a suit anymore, but I do have a tuxedo I was thinking that I could take in.

Can you wear a tuxedo to a wedding if you're not in the wedding party?  Or is that too fancy?  Do I need to spring for a suit?  If so, where's a good place to get formal clothes when you're wearing 3x that won't break me? 

Any advice?

Don

I thought invitations were suppose to say what type of clothing to wear like casual or formal.

When I got married we told everyone since it was a lake wedding to dress casual, shorts were fine! 

Any way you could find out without asking the couple directly, or just asking? 

 I agree with Just Brooke in that the best place to start would be to talk to the couple getting married.  That would give you the best place to start.  Or, take the suggestion of wearing your birthday suit!  LOL!

Barb

I don't think it would look right if you were in a tux, and you'd probably feel uncomfortable.

*You could always wear your birthday suit!!

Men's warehouse has some good sales, as does Casual Male XL,  I know they're both expensive, but if you buy online you can get pretty good deals.

Good Luck!

Don't think you will feel comfortable in a tux.  Could always check at second hand stores or on ebay.

Hi Don,

From what I've always heard, tuxedos at weddings are typically reserved for the wedding party only. It distinguishes them from the rest of the guests.

Is the wedding in the early afternoon or evening? If it is early afternoon in July, you could probably get away with a nice shirt and tie, as afternoon weddings tend to be less formal. If it is the evening, a suit would probably be best (though honestly, it depends on how laid back the couple is).

I know folks who have had luck getting suits in that size from Burlington Coat Factory (if you have one nearby) as well as Men's Warehouse.

I'd look at the Salvation Army or Goodwill type stores for a sport coat. You might find one that's never even been worn. I can't tell you how many clothes with tags still on them that I have given away! 

Connie 

I would suggest checking out SYMS  - do you have them CA?  How formal the wedding is usually depends on the time...if it's an evening wedding, a tux would be acceptable.  However, if it's a morning or afternoon wedding, you can wear a suit or separates...khaki slacks with a nice jacket with dress shirt and tie,which I think you get for a reasonable price at SYMS or Men's Wearhouse.

Brid

PM me your size... I have a pretty nice suit that no longer fits me that I'd be willing to part with for a good cause... :)

Don, I would also talk to the couple first. If it isn't black tie, I think a tuxedo is most likely not a good choice. The only other folks in attendance wearing one would be the groom and groomsmen. I have actually found great high quality suits on eBay of all places. Many people tend to seldom wear their suits, only to find out they no longer fit. eBay is a good place to pick up these types of bargains. That's my idea for a good deal on a suit as you continue to lose weight. -- Tom