Body image

For the last several weeks when I have been thinking about some of the stuff we do in the summer, then I start thinking oh you can't do that you are to big so on and so on.....I know I have lost a lot of weight but in my mind I am still that fat guy. Today we needed to go up in the attic and check are ho****er heater, I have not been able to go because I weighed more than the limit on the pull down stairs plus it was hard for me to squeeze in. So today when Greg and I were talking about checking it I said I guess you are the one who gets to go in the attic and he looks at me like I am crazy and I say I weigh too much to go on the steps and as I am saying that I am like I use to be that person. I just can't get my mind to except the new me. I see it in the mirror and I feel so much better. I was just wondering if I am the only one who feels this way and if I will ever get over this?

Jeff

Well I think it gets better. I keep thinking of all the things I will be able to do. So far I've done go-karts and rollercoasters! 

I plan on buying a trampoline for the kids (and I've always wanted too lol) but of course I had to check the weight limit. I think it's safe to say my weight is fine for just about anything, but yet I always check. Even when we were at the amuzement park last week I was like "what if I'm too big that?" but I wasn't too big for anything actually!!!

I think it helps to actually start doing things you once couldn't do before. Let yourself be a kid again! 

I am in the same exact boat. When I see people laughing, I mean strangers on the street I still think "they are laughing at me cause I'm fat".  I heard that it takes about a year for you mind to catch up with your body and the mirror..

I'll let you know if and when it ever changes!

Hi Jeff,
I think the mind is like any muscle. You have to exercise it to get it into shape and that takes consistent practice. Keep simply reminding yourself of what is possible and then follow through with the actions. It's a mind/body connection that you/we just have to retrain. And yes, it takes a while. Keep looking in the mirror. Take pictures in consistent sized things like doorways.

The other night I was out to eat at a place where the table is up against the booth seat with chairs on the other side. I remembered that I could sit on the smaller side and after I was seated pulled the table closer so I could be comfortable. After dinner I started to stand up to go powder my nose and started to push the table aside and realized I didn't need to. I looked back on purpose to see the small space I had removed myself from. I was astounded. But taking note of things like that, I think, helps retrain our psyche to reconnect with our new body.

And there is a part of me that doesn't want to get over it... cuz it feels good to realize how far I've come. So I'm kind of enjoying it for as long as I can. I still hold up my newly washed size 6 jeans and swear I'll never get them one and then feel a thrill when they zip without resistance.

That feeling is what keeps me okay with giving up the Ben and Jerry's. Nothing tastes as good as THAT feels.

This all takes some getting used to.... I have found a REALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good look in the mirror will give you quite a boost......

 

I am having problems too. I am starting therapy on Wednesday to hopefully work on this issue.

This is one of my biggest concerns about the surgery. I have been "the fat chick" my whole life. I have always been overweight and I worry my mind won't be able to wrap around the after WLS me.

right there with you buddy.... Im still afraid to sit in my ikea chair even though Im light enough for it.

I still cringe when I see patio furniture

I surprise myself when I go to the movies and have a ton of room (same with booths and cars)

I'm sure it's a long road ahead

My brain has never reconciled my weightloss.  I started this at 550 and I am 150 now and I still see myself as 550.  When I see myself in the mirror or the windows of stores, I think wow what a skinny chick, then I realize it's me. 

I have only recently started using the little step ladder that we have for the light bulb changes.  In fact, when I go to the gym, I always get on the big equipment and one day a man came over and said, lady, will you use the regular treadmil, this one is reserved for the heavy weights.  Yeah, made my day. 

So, how was the attic?