Awkward situation

Okay...so I had my first counceling apts this week, and one of the things she was going to discuss next time was how I could talk to S about me starting to be in her clothes.  We both thought it would be a few weeks, maybe a month before i really got to that point so no worries.  Well....i'm there.  Now, on the one hand, i'm like YAY!!!!!!!!!!!  I'm finally in a 48 pant, down from a 58 and I'm on week 10!  I woudl say I'm excited, but I think i'm in shock.  However, here is the deal.  I'm wearing S's old pair of jeans that she recently lost enough to get out of...so now I'm 1 pant size away from being equal with her.....and possibly will pass her in the next few months.  Has anyone had this situation?  How did you cope?  How did you two talk about it? 

Don't get me wrong....S is VERY supportive.  But i kow it depresses her a little at how much weight I'm losing so quickly and she is doing it through blood, sweat, and tears.  I just don't want to hurt her feelings while celebrating my victories.    Any advice?

Oh and WOOT!!!!!!!  I'm finally in a size starting in a 4!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I haven't been there in 6 years!  And these are like Arizona jeans...which I find fit a little more snug than levis or other brands!  I have to say I'm very pleased with how my bottom half of my body is shaping up!  LOL  :)  Oh, and because it's sports jersey day, I'm wearing my Bears jersey for the first time in 2 years....yeah, I'm swimming in it.  :)  So just to share my happiness as well! 

Thanks!

Sorry Rae - totally outside my realm of experience.  Most all my friends are fitness buffs, so I don't get much mixed reactions from my support group.

But DAMN!  Down 10 sizes in 10 weeks!  Amazing!  Good on you, and congrats!

Rae,

Congrats on your weight loss that is great. I went through this with Greg a few months ago. He said he was ok with me wearing his clothes, then I would come home and he would say oh you are wearing my clothes, I got that a good bite then later he would say I don't mind you wearing my clothes. it was back and forth for awhile. Yesterday I was saying I need some khakis and he said you can wear some of mine, I said they are too big, I am 4-5" smaller in the waist now. Now he is on a diet, says he has to loose weight.

Good luck

Jeff

Hi Rae:

I'm going through something like this. My partner was always bigger than me but not by much. And now that I am size 4 - 6 and she is a 40 - 42 she has a hard time, once in a while. But she is very supportive and helps me celebrate my victories. If she loves ans supports you, which it sounds like she does, then she should be able to come to you if she has any insecurites.. Just keep acting positive and sharing your victories till it becomes a problem or IF it becomes a problem for her, and talk about it at that point..

Oh yeah one more thing I forgot. Even though I didn't go through the clothes issue with Niki I did am still going through it with my 12 year old son. I steal his shorts and shirts all the time because I can't bring myself to spend money on myself yet. And he DOES get upset and asks me to please stop. But then when he finds me wandering around in my underwear, he gives in and brings me some shorts..

Congratulations on how well your weight loss is progressing! 

My partner is small but at her highest weight ever.  She is starting to get jittery that I am getting closer which has led to more and more talk of dieting.  For me, it is a good thing as her worry will lead to more gym visits.  Luckily I guess, I don't think I'll ever fit into most of her clothes . . . though I might be wrong.

 I would say that you and your partner should strive to do weight loss together. It doesn't matter that you will lose more quickly than your partner will. You need to reassure your partner that both of you can do it together with just a little effort, patience, and time. Reassurance is key here in my opinion. Especially to say that you won't just leave your partner in the dust. You want both of you to be healthy. Just my 2 cents....