I was at a happy hours thing :(

 People were telling me I was 2 tiny! Is it possible I've loss so much weight that I got 2 tiny? I'm 6.3 170 as of this am.  I've never heard those words. I still feel so fat. Is anyone exp these issues?

Jerry,
6'3" 170 is skinny and most guys that height would kill to be your weight. You look great in your pics. I think what your are hearing are people who are used to your old weight. They see such a difference and still remember the fatter you. I know a lot gets discussed on here on how each of us perceive ourselves. The same applies to coworkers and friends. Think about how they are perceiving you. You have undergone this huge transformation. They are comparing the new you to the old you. The typical reaction is to say, "Wow, he has just lost entirely too much weight. It  can't be healthy."  Like I said you look great in the pics. I would also kill to hear someone tell me I am too skinny. Take it as a compliment.
Tom

Jerry,

I am in the same boat you are. I am 6'4" and as of this morning my weight was 208. I am wearing a 34" waist and I am having people tell me the same thing I am too skinny, I need to gain weight. I still feel fat and when I look in the mirror with out anything on I look like I need to loose another 30 pounds.

 it's very hard 2 see yourself as good looking. I went to a dance club and I felt like all eyes on me. It's so freaking hard 2 see urself skinny. I saw this man was very handsome, and he walked up and asked me if I was single. I was like wow!!!

I think your doing fine. So long as you are getting the proper nutrition and following your exercise regimen, then your body will go to its own equilibrium. Its just family 'n friends have to get use to the real... natural you.

I loved being told that I was too skinny.  People were like, "Stop!  Stop losing weight.  You're getting too little."  I just shrugged them off and let my body decide what was just right, and I think it did a good job (thanks body.)

Just a month after surgery, when I had fallen under the three-hundred mark, I thought I was thin.  I mean, I was, compared to 380.  I look at those pictures now and see that, oh, yeah, I was still a fatty.  But I was able to see and accept all of my body's changes at every step, although my view was not always without its flaws.

About 3 months after surgery, I was at an amusement park in Kissimmee, Florida.  I was going to ride their drop-tower thingy, but was worried about fitting in the harness.  So I asked the operator beforehand if I was too fat fit.  He looked at me like I was crazy and said, "You're not fat."

And I believed it.  I accepted it.

I accepted it when my friends said it.  I accepted it when strangers said it.  I accepted it when the mirror said it.

We, as overweight people, have always had so much trouble accepting what we see in the mirror.  Sure, we'd look in the mirror and see that we were fat, but did we really accept just how fat we really were?  How many were still astonished on the super-heavyweight scales when faced with the reality of exactly how heavy we were?  And how many of us refused to accept that reality even then, allowing ourselves, instead, to simply gain more and more weight.

On the reverse side, now that you're thin, you have to accept the way your body has changed for the better.  For whatever reason, you're resisting the acceptance of the thinner and healthier individual that you are.  You have to let that go.  Perhaps you're afraid to accept what you see in the mirror because you feel like you're setting yourself up for disappointment should you gain some weight back.  I tell you, that is, at best, a horrible way to live and, at worst, a total recipe for disaster.

You have to believe in yourself.  You have to accept yourself.  Your life has changed; everything is different.  And when everything changes, even if it's for the better, that can be quite scary.  Especially when those changes happen as quickly as they do with WLS.  And I know it's easy enough to take a walk or to go to the gym and work on what you need physically.  But keep in mind that your head is changing just as much as your body.  Take some time to focus on keeping yourself in shape mentally.  You're a new man, now.  A healthier man.  A thinner man.  Accept that.  You're the only one who can, and you're the only one who matters.  Afterward, you'll see that it will make you a happier man.  Then you'll be able to accept that you are now complete and go on to live life to its fullest.

Best of luck, dude.  Things will be all right.  You're doing fine.

Cheers,

Chris

I'm going to copy this out and put it somewhere where I can read it frequently. Very well said Chris.
Thank you!

Very well said Chris..

And yes Jerry you are going to get this constantly. My nutritionist actually explained it to me very well, and it is actually what I tell people now when they tell me I am too thin.. I say:

 

Actually I am not to thin.. It is just that you are used to me being over weight. Therefore I appear thinner than I actually am. You would be shocked if you knew my weight.

It works. And honestly when I tell people my current weight they are ALWAYS shocked. People tend to guess 105.. (LOL!!) in reality I am 145.

As for the relationshipw ith the mirror. We had eating disorders prior to surgery. Whether we used food as a crutch, or obsessed about it. Most of us had a weight issue based on body image. I still look in the mirror and see 300 pounds. I sit on the couch in shorts and wish my thighs weren't so huge.. My nutritionalist ALSO told me some sage advise on this topic.

It takes about 1 year from goal for us to actually see reality in the mirror..

Bottom line... Hang in there. This to shall pass.

I can hardly wait to hear something like that.
I had a shock when I taked photos of myself last week. How I'm older and heavier...
Now, i going to fight, so next year.... a new me. 

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I ha vent seen your updated pic yet.. WOW WOW WOW WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You just got me really exited.. One the weight chart I would say that you near normal for someone your height and age. I have heard of the I'M STILL FAT thing.. If that persists you need to see talk to someone about that. From my stand point jealously is setting in.. I still have quite a bit of time till I get where you are. The band is much slower. You're friends are just not used to it. Give them time to adjust.... The will or the wont. By the way the next picture you post I want to see a smile.. SHOW the pride you must feel.