Anyone else feel this way???

Ok, last night at work my friends totally hottie son came in. I was started thinking I would never get a guy like him if I was single. Now keep in mind, I am happily married. BUT... I want to go out and see if I can get a guy. Just to see if I can get one. The only guys that were interested in me before were the cubby chasers. Like I said before, hubby really wasn't one, just thought plus sized women were less self-centered and materialistic. Is this normal? I would never cheat on Mark, I just want to see if I could get someone.

I've had the same feelings.

I want everyone to tell me how hot I am LOL! Actually, over the summer I went out with my girl friends for the first time in ages. This guy was all over me. He wanted to take me home, kept dancing with me, and was so into me - YIKES!!! He was like underwear model type HOT.  I know that before surgery a guy like that would of never been interested. BUT I'm not interested in the boys and I would never cheat. It was a damn great feeling though.

You are beautiful, girl.  And, like you, I don't care if the compliment comes from a man or a woman.  It's a compliment, and I'll take it.  (Why can't so many straight guys realize that a compliment does not mean that I want to rape you and turn you gay and destroy western civilization??)

Underwear model, you say.  How hot, though I've never liked going out with guys who are too unrealistically gorgeous.  Their performance in bed never matches their looks, and I only get disappointed.

Chris

Well thank you! 

I use to never like compliments. I always felt like people would say things just to be nice or it was a simple comment like "nice hair". Whoop dee doo. Now I get all sorts of compliments, ones that aren't so generic. I don't care who it's from either. Go for it!!

Even though I'm into women it doesn't mean I'm blind. I know a good lookin' guy when I see one and I have no problems complimenting the hotties on this board! 

This is one fab group of people!

 

It is funny, I had this conversation the other day....  When I was heavy, heavier, heaviest.. I never felt attractive.  I always felt ugly and not desired.  I used to dream of having somebody slip me their number, getting that smile, or that second glance....but it never happened.  After I lost weight, I was hoping that I would feel better about myself.  I thought my new confidence would make me feel better.  Sadly, it didn't.
As a "thin" or "normal" guy, I hoped that I would now be considered attractive, desired, worthwhile. etc......  I would love the waiter to slip me his number under my plate, I want somebody to flirt with me and make me feel handsome.....
Honestly, though, i have realized that no matter what others think of me...it has to be about how I react and feel.  I am not attractive like several of the guys who are posting...  but looks aren't everything.. THANK GOD.... I have the emotional and mental characteristics..lol

Daniel,

For what it's worth... I think you're SMOKIN' HOT!!!  

I am certain that there is someone out there who wants to flirt with you.... and they will!

Hugs,
Brent...   

Forget this considered **** Dan, you ARE attractive, desired and worthwhile.  What you think of yourself translates into how you carry yourself, and this can make you more, or less, attractive.  Don't leave it to others to think positive things about you, leave it to yourself.  And if they don't see how attractive, desired and worthwhile you are, then **** 'em.  They weren't worth your time anyway.

Enjoying the Philippine height of the summer season,

Chris

Oh Daniel, You sell yourself short, You are a very handsome man! and I am surprised a waiter has not slipped you his number yet, wait for it, I am sure it will happen soon!! Look in the mirror again.....your hot dude!

Hey Kathy!

Everyone wonders,  at one time or another, if they can get the hottie that just walked in the room.  God knows I have!

While I haven't yet experienced the feelings you are right now, I believe the answers to your questions are:

Yes it's normal to feel the way you do, and;
Yes, you can get anyone you want, when you want.  You're a beautiful lady!

Brent...  

I've never had a problem with self-esteem.  I always considered myself a good looking guy who was just fat.  I was a fat good looking guy.  Some people were into that, some weren't.  I understand how we guys are.

When I started getting a lot of attention, it really shocked the hell out of me.  I remember the night my balls finally dropped ( Figuratively, of course.)  It was about nine months after my surgery and I was at my favorite lesbian bar hangout.  (A lot of men frequented it too.  I've always found the men at a lesbian bar to be of a much higher quality.)  Anyway, a guy walked in who I thought was hot.  After noticing him cruising me, the bartender talked me into buying him a drink.  After some hesitation, I finally did.  He raised the drink to me, smiled and sent me one back.  Wow, I thought.  He's actually interested!  We talked and had a good time that night...  It was the first time I had ever done anything that assertive, so afterward, I was really stoked and I talked to my friends about it.  They were unimpressed.  My favorite lesbian told me, "He was all right, but you can do so much better than him."  I believed her, and that raised my confidence even more.  New Year's Eve was just a couple of nights after, and I did do much better...  (That was the night I with those two guys from the Navy.  Woah.)

My aim was never to prove that I could be the one to get the guy (or guys) that everyone wants.  Now, and I'm not trying to be conceited, I know how it is to be the guy on both sides of that equation.  Really, I've always been happy just ending up with the guy that I wanted.  I never felt like I had anything to prove or to impress to anyone else.  And some of the losers I've dated can attest to that.

Kathy, if you were single and out dating in earnest like I was, you'd be surprised at the "hotties" you can get just with what you have.  And wondering is completely normal.  What worries me (and you know I do love you, Hagatha) is that you tell us that you're with someone who is with you for something that you're not.  I really do hope there is much more that keeps you two together.  You deserve the best.  We all do, so I hope that this is it for you.

Chris

P.S. I did sound like a conceited little **** in this post, didn't I?