You are not big enough for WLS!

When I tell people I am about to have RNY surgery I almost always get the same reaction. You are not big enough for that! You can not possibly weigh THAT much! Ahhh... so tired of that. I have stopped telling people about it.
I am 5'4" and weigh 248. Ok folks I believe thats big enough! Anyway ... most people believe WLS is all for cosmetic reasons but that is soo far from the truth for me. I have lots of things starting to go wrong this body of mine and I need to get it all under control now while I am young and can still enjoy a good part of my life ...healthy.
Pheeww!  I feel better now.

(((Hug))). You are doing this for your health. Just don't tell them anymore. Sorry they are not excited and supportive at this point. Maybe they'll come on board later.

Fuck 'em.

*oops, I'm not on R&R anymore, LOL*

You know.. Nean said the right thing. IT'S FOR YOU HEALTH. That is no lie and the biggest benefit. It is not about weight and how heavy you are. That is ingrained in us from the insurance company approval processes. They base it all on weight. There are other factors that have a much bigger impact.  --Tom

I got this reaction before surgery too!  I think it was mostly because I didnt ACT fat.  I was so active and athletic that it just wasnt the perception.  But now in retrospect, there is a huge difference and the same people who are looking at me almost 60 pounds later are amazed at the difference!  Just remember its for you and not them!

Here here Barb!  I totally agree.

I had several conversations with people who questioned by decision during my preparation year before surgery...that's the year I did my nut appointments, all my tests, and said good bye to food.  They kept questioning why did I needed this surgery (I couldn't possibly weigh 261)...couldn't I do it on my own (I lost 65 pounds when I was 34...I could do it again)...what about the consequences (I could die), etc.  I finally stopped talking about it to everyone, but my immediate family and best friend...they have all been very supportive from the beginning.  Find that support group in your social circle and stick with them.  

Good luck!

Brid 

I can so relate to you... I was one of those people that everyone questioned my need for surgery.

I started out at 237 and carried it "well". People thought I was crazy. I had lost 65 pounds once before and so all I heard was you did it before, you can do it again. What people don't understand is that losing weight is not the be all and end all... it is keeping it off that allows us to be healthy. We all know this but they don't. What was really hard too was hearing that in my weight loss support group at the hospital. There were a few folks who had much more to lose that I actually felt some anamosity from. Like I was taking something from them. This especially was hard right before surgery after I lost 52 pounds preop and people thought I had already had the surgery.

Today I am 1.5 pounds from my goal of 125 pounds. I could NEVER have gotten here without the surgery. It's that simple and I know now that I can stay at this healthy weight. The best thing is I am going to live longer and with a much better quality of life.

You don't have to justify your decision to anyone. If your surgeon and you agree then that's all that matters.

And the best revenge is living well.

So you are a "light weight". Who cares? You are having health issues so you need something. I was 387 and was told I never looked almost 400. Even now people are amazed at what I weigh since I still carry it well. Good luck dealing with stupid people. They come out of the woodwork when you decide to have surgery.

You are a lightweight...so was I.  Both my doctors and I thought WLS was a smart option for me...that's all that mattered.  When people commented that I wasn't big enough for WLS, I thanked them for their kind words."Thank you...that is so sweet of you to say" and then I would change the subject.

Really, it's no one's business.  If you and your doctor both agree that the benefits outweigh the risks, then no one else has a say.

Lightweight here as well.

My VSG surgery is booked for 6th April.....and I get a lot of that reaction.

WHAT???!!!  You are not big enough for WLS...........well guess what..........I am not small enough for LIFE!!   And I am BIG enough to educate you......and YOU are small enough to say someting so SILLY!

Jumps off soapbox....

Get healthy, get happy.....and enjoy!!

Jane