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Hi Jerry... I'm not sure what you mean by current relationship status and yes we are here to support one another's weight loss process.
However, I would suggest that it's very difficult to separate out one's life from the WLS process. When we have emotional trauma from break ups or other life stuff, death, job problems, financial hits, it certainly impacts our WLS journey. In the same vein, our weight loss can seriously impact our relationships and do, some positively, and some negatively.
Some of us are very fortunate to have supportive partners, some do not and those partners even go so far as to sabotage the weight loss. Others are just moving out into the world of dating for the first time and its ******g scary. Some find themselves in a position of seeing their long-term relationship for what it now is and have to step away from codependency.
All of these things are just as relevant to weight loss as protein powders, exercise, and calorie intake. Actually more so because if we don't pay attention to the inner workings of this journey, take care of our hearts and minds we will easily fall back into the habits of coping with food that got us into the death-by-obesity cycle in the first place.
Personally (and I'm only speaking for myself here) I appreciate that this forum is holistic. If I want to just know about the mechanics of weight loss, I can find that in the pamphlets at the doctor's office. I appreciate feeling heard here that I can say I had a fight with my partner last night and it sent me to the fridge looking for solace for my anger and know that I'm not the only one who does that and know that there may be a better way of coping and hearing those ideas from others.
Of course, if you weren't taking about all of this... well then ... nevermind. :)
However, I would suggest that it's very difficult to separate out one's life from the WLS process. When we have emotional trauma from break ups or other life stuff, death, job problems, financial hits, it certainly impacts our WLS journey. In the same vein, our weight loss can seriously impact our relationships and do, some positively, and some negatively.
Some of us are very fortunate to have supportive partners, some do not and those partners even go so far as to sabotage the weight loss. Others are just moving out into the world of dating for the first time and its ******g scary. Some find themselves in a position of seeing their long-term relationship for what it now is and have to step away from codependency.
All of these things are just as relevant to weight loss as protein powders, exercise, and calorie intake. Actually more so because if we don't pay attention to the inner workings of this journey, take care of our hearts and minds we will easily fall back into the habits of coping with food that got us into the death-by-obesity cycle in the first place.
Personally (and I'm only speaking for myself here) I appreciate that this forum is holistic. If I want to just know about the mechanics of weight loss, I can find that in the pamphlets at the doctor's office. I appreciate feeling heard here that I can say I had a fight with my partner last night and it sent me to the fridge looking for solace for my anger and know that I'm not the only one who does that and know that there may be a better way of coping and hearing those ideas from others.
Of course, if you weren't taking about all of this... well then ... nevermind. :)
"When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge." -Tuli Kupferberg
You said everything I thought and so much better than I ever could have. 
7-09
Very well said, as well as all the other comments. I wonder if our struggling partners could have or even be interested in their own forum to talk about their fears, concerns, whatevers. It is so painful to think that my weight loss and increased health would threaten my partner and possibly destroy our relationship. Fortunately, we have a very good and healthy relationship and have always been able to work through our schtuff. I guess I don't want to believe that we would have problems from it that could break us up.
Lap band 03/09; revised to RNY 01/12
Read about my journey at www.journeyofafatwoman.wordpress.com
Read about my journey at www.journeyofafatwoman.wordpress.com
A lot of the posts lately are about partners not understanding WLS, partners leaving because of WLS, or other issues couples are having because of WLS.
For me it's all relevant because I'm an emotional eater **** me off - I eat. Hurt me - I eat. My partner totally doesn't get me which is why I come here.
For me it's all relevant because I'm an emotional eater **** me off - I eat. Hurt me - I eat. My partner totally doesn't get me which is why I come here.
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