is it my OCD or a challenge
I know I am OCD but not in anyways that are a detriment to my daily life. In many ways my OCD has been a benefit utilizing my new tool (RNY). I have no problem eating the same things every day. When I began this journey I weighed 298# I am 6' tall. At my pre-op appointment my surgeon said I would probably get down to 195-200 I set my personal goal between 185-190. today 9 months out I weigh 171# and I think I can get down to 155#. Everyone is telling me that I am too thin but I am obsessed with the way I look out of my clothes and hate the extra skin in my abdomin and I know that I will never loose the extra bit of skin in the mid section. I have gone from 46-48 pants to a comfortable 32 from 2-3 xlshirt to a small- medium I continue to do what I am supposed to do. Eating the right things, getting my protein, my fluids, and exercising. My partner thinks I am to skinny but I like the person I am and find I am much more confident.
When did you know you had lost enough or did you just let your body decide. I am not comfortable increasing my food intake at this time. I have been experimenting with some revisions to foods that I cook to enhance the "healthy" part.
I guess I just needed to rant
I've looked around at some people I know and I think it IS possible to lose too much weight. I think we have a responsibility to our bodies to lose enough but not too much. And I'm not the one to tell you where that place is for your body. But I do think that you should sit down with your doctor and have that conversation. I also think BMI is a good tool to determining where you should be weight-wise.
Satisfaction with your body is not a good indicator of how much weight to lose, because that vision of what you look like, if you are anything like the rest of us, is probably askew.
What led us all (most of us) to obesity was an eating disorder. Be careful not to let that same disorder push you over to the other side of ill-health. Talk to your doctors, nutritionist, and even a psychologist, set a goal weight and stick to it. If that means increasing your food to stay at that goal, then learning how to do that is nother challenge.
Keep us posted. This is a very important topic.
"When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge." -Tuli Kupferberg
on 3/9/09 9:56 am - Houston, TX
On the over shoot..we (I) ..let me own this... have distorted self image..so I never see me as in a good place..
so I had to rely on the numbers...what does the scale say....what do my clothes say...
also...I find someone I would like to be built like...some on that is my height..and then I find out what size they wear...and see how close I am...the odd thing..I'm usually smaller..and that just goofs up my head..so I have to just trust the numbers..
Hi T and Raven:
What a good topic, especially since it has been the main topic at my house since my 1 year follow up last week. My doctor is concerned I am trading one eating disorder for another. She actually has a guy that two years out is now anorexic. She asked me where I wanted to get to, and I told her 125, she asked why that number and I told her because I saw someone that number and that is how I want to look. Well my BMI is now normal (woo hoo) I am not even overweight anymore. I guess my ideal body weight is 132. But like you I look in the mirro and I am NOT happy. And not just the weight loss, but the skin. So now I am lifting weights to try and get the skin back to some sense of normal.
My partner (and friends and family) all think I have lost enough
My nutritionist also wanted me to bump my calories to 1200 and start adding more fat and carbs. But I just can't do it. Not yet. I'm not ready.
Please keep in touch and let me know how your food revisions are going and what you find out.
