Thats it .......
I'll just stay dressed the rest of my life. Uh huh. I'll shower with clothes on, change in 2 seconds flat, and MAYBE I'll be ok. Yeah Right!
Today has sucked. I hate my body. I asked my partner to take pictures of me today ....yup...hated them. What is worse is I point out things to her like "um did you see the skin from my arm..why didn't you tell me to move my arm?" and she gets all "but I love you for you". IRRITATING! Like just say to me "hey, move your arm a little to the left". I don't need a sappy moment when I'm already feeling bad.
I felt ugly before surgery. Still feel ugly after surgery. What gives.
Today has sucked. I hate my body. I asked my partner to take pictures of me today ....yup...hated them. What is worse is I point out things to her like "um did you see the skin from my arm..why didn't you tell me to move my arm?" and she gets all "but I love you for you". IRRITATING! Like just say to me "hey, move your arm a little to the left". I don't need a sappy moment when I'm already feeling bad.
I felt ugly before surgery. Still feel ugly after surgery. What gives.
I know you won't believe me when I say you are beautiful... you'll have a million plus two reasons why I'm wrong but I'm going to say it anyway... Brooke, you are beautiful.
And I have days like this too when I swear next life, I'm coming back in a perfect body... but wait... what is that? Oh, yeah, unattainable. Even the most exquisite (in our eyes) women hate their bodies. We are conditioned for it. I'm not sure how to undo it. For me, I try to see my body as a small abused child and I just cry and remember to wrap my arms around her and tell her she's beautiful in my eyes and that I love her. I then I prove it to her by doing something nurturing, simple. I believe our bodies will respond to this love as will our hearts.
Also, try finding a professional photographer and have some shots done. They know how to emphasize the best and minimize the worst. I'm going to do this as a gift to myself for when I get and stay at goal for a month. Since I can't do the surgery, I'm saving up for some professional photography.
In the meantime, Big HUGS!!!!
And I have days like this too when I swear next life, I'm coming back in a perfect body... but wait... what is that? Oh, yeah, unattainable. Even the most exquisite (in our eyes) women hate their bodies. We are conditioned for it. I'm not sure how to undo it. For me, I try to see my body as a small abused child and I just cry and remember to wrap my arms around her and tell her she's beautiful in my eyes and that I love her. I then I prove it to her by doing something nurturing, simple. I believe our bodies will respond to this love as will our hearts.
Also, try finding a professional photographer and have some shots done. They know how to emphasize the best and minimize the worst. I'm going to do this as a gift to myself for when I get and stay at goal for a month. Since I can't do the surgery, I'm saving up for some professional photography.
In the meantime, Big HUGS!!!!
"When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge." -Tuli Kupferberg
Did they do surgery for feeling ugly??!! They can't do surgery on your feelings!
They did surgery on your body. They made you a weight loss tool.
And you worked the tool. And you lost weight.
You were beautiful before surgery. You are beautiful now.
You also have some droopy, floopies to remind you of your achievement.
Over time, they will tighten up, especially if you wear compression garments consistently (IMO).
Maybe PMS? depression? Maybe the fun of the weight loss is done and the mundania of day to day life is draggin' you down a bit? So sorry you feel ugly, but your partner does love you, and you really are beautiful.
"be willing to sit in the middle of the fear and fucking feel it." Lady Raven
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VSG 12/9/08 Highest 278, then lost #30 preop Goal 126
Ya know, I really do see my bat wing arms as a badge of honor. I hate them but I don't care if they show because I am still proud of them and what they represent to me. Now the tube sock tits, shar pei tummy, and elephant thighs I hate. But that's ok because the only person who sees them is me and the hubby. Oh and the occasional doctor. I don't mean to sound like I am trivializing this but it really is all in your attitude.
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Xavier Elliott born 10-5-10
I have always been this way. MOST days I have the "I don't give a **** what you think" attitude and I run the show lol. I'm ****y, confident, and really do like my new body. Other days (like yesterday when I posted this) I was NOT loving my body what so ever.
Someone mentioned PMS. Well I started my period today so that could of been it. Today I feel fantabulous.
Someone mentioned PMS. Well I started my period today so that could of been it. Today I feel fantabulous.
Guess work got in the way of posting.. I'm a little late for this one.
But ditto baby I do the same thing almost everyone morning (well except this morning cuz duh I lost a 100 pounds)
I am critical, hate my body without clothes (hell I looke way better fat naked)
But they say it takes a year from goal for your brain to catch up to your body and I am just gonna hang on and wait!
Plus I think you look hot.. Have I mentioned that before?
But ditto baby I do the same thing almost everyone morning (well except this morning cuz duh I lost a 100 pounds)
I am critical, hate my body without clothes (hell I looke way better fat naked)
But they say it takes a year from goal for your brain to catch up to your body and I am just gonna hang on and wait!
Plus I think you look hot.. Have I mentioned that before?
I have found a new way of life that has kept me at Goal since 2008.. And keeping it that way!
No I haven't! When did you post them?
I will have to look tonight. I only have Facebook on my Crackberry and it's easy to navigate the pics from my lap top.
I have pics with Raven that I am waiting for and then I am going to have Niki take some pics this weekend when I have my fashion show (I am cleaning out the closet baby!)
I will have to look tonight. I only have Facebook on my Crackberry and it's easy to navigate the pics from my lap top.
I have pics with Raven that I am waiting for and then I am going to have Niki take some pics this weekend when I have my fashion show (I am cleaning out the closet baby!)
I have found a new way of life that has kept me at Goal since 2008.. And keeping it that way!