Stress

Ok, so today has been a hell of a day. Work has the worst its been in years. Still lots of lay offs to come. I have wanted to eat all day long or smoke. I stopped smoking over 2 years ago. For the most part I did pretty well on  not eating, I gave in at one point and ate some peanuts, and then had some peanut butter later. How do you handle extra stressful times. I am worried I am falling back to old habits, it was only today but...

Then to top it off I came home to find out my wonderful hubby bought a new car. We had talked about it and I said was ok as long as you don't have to put anything down and the payments stay about the same. He put 3k down, payments went up and its for SEVEN years. I am not sure what he was thinking. He said that I was getting all the attention now that I am loosing weight and that he is turning 40 and he needed a convertible. Neither one of has jobs that are all that secure so savings might be need sooner rather then later. So I wanted to eat again. I am drinking water right now, but it is not helping! SOrry for all the venting just been one of those days.

Jeff

Oh, Jeff, big hug....

I'm so sorry you are having such a rough day. What I notice most is that you wrote here about it instead of buying a pack or a six-pack. Take a minute to congratulate yourself.

Your awareness is what will be a huge tool to keep you from falling back into bad habits. Knowing that you can is a huge deal.

Weight loss bring such huge changes to relationships... feeling that ordinarily might never surface. So it sounds like your hubby is the one doing the acting out. Couldn't have been a new shirt huh? Or a nice piece of jewelry? I hope the two of you can sit down and talk it out and either live with the decision or return the car but either way get a handle on what he's feeling that has made him jump into such a decision and against your agreement. You have the awareness and the power here to really turn this around to make your relationship stronger. Not easy work though.

So glad you could vent. Keep drinking the water and remember that the food, while it may take a moment of the anxiety away, the problems will be there when you're done digesting and so will the calories and then you'll just feel worse on top of the bad.

Hang in there, buddy!

Great post Jeff!  I am sorry for your bad day!  We all have them and I know I too need to think of ways not to smoke or eat! So far I am doing good about it, but I too use to eat for peace!   Good luck!

Jeff, we all have bad days. Sounds like you are definitely having one. Stress at work is hard to handle. It's easier to turn to food. Sounds like you handled it sensibly. And the b/f, damn that sounds like me. Well, it's all said and done now, just go forward and discuss your financial concerns with your partner. I am sure your relationship is worth more than a fight over the car. And.. a slimmer you will look damn good in that convertible driving to the unemployment office. -- Tom 

"And.. a slimmer you will look damn good in that convertible driving to the unemployment office. "

I love it!!  LMAO

Jeff - take a deep breath look at your partner and just  say, "I love you."  What else can you say?  The coughing gag if you light up is going to be a lot more painful.

Brid 

(((Hugs))) Sounds like DBF didn't smoke or drink either   , but I agree with Tom, compulsive underware shopping might have been a *****eaper. Big, glaring demand for a talk ain't it!

Sounds like you did great! Keep it up. Maybe having a stress plan or two would help? (This would be what I say, not necessarily what I do...)

Ok, I had a nice post but it is too long to redo. In a nut shell, you are aware of the downfalls. Don't beat yourself up over it. If you do give into snakes try to eat protein, fruits, or veggies. No junk.

Wow... yeah I can totally relate to this...  I won't go into the details because it was 7 years ago and we're long past that... plus it was a really bad year in our relationship... 

I read that you ended up winning the battle.   I'm glad it all worked out for the best.

Be strong, you made the right decision.

Hi Jeff:

First of all I agree with Raven.. Congratulations on admitting, recognizing, and NOT denying!

I still fall victim to the 'ol mighty glass of wine, the bag of hot cheese fries, and at all cost try to stay clear of the cigarettes (I quit a year and a half ago..)

So I have started a new program for stress control with my new cleanse, and burst to finish off the last 16 pounds I want to lose. I had a pretty similar day (minus the convertible but plus $4000 in taxes because my dear partner wanted to play russian roulet with her taxes) and I did two things.. I went for a run (just a quick 1/2 hour) came home and had a cup of Yogi Bedtime Tea (Celestial Seasoning Tension Tamer works wonders as well, and Super C sleep packets) and I felt so much better.

Good luck!

Oh Jeff,

I can definately sympathize with you!  My late husband, rest his poor soul, and I had the same fight.  We had just had our daughter and he wanted to get a Mitsubishi Eclipse.  Now they aren't terribly expensive cars, but they are not made to hold a bulky car seat in the back!  I told him I hope he loved that convertible because he was going to be with that car longer than he was going to be with me.

Financial stress is not something you need right now!  Nobody needs that right now.  But don't punish yourself by eating or smoking.

Peanuts and pb are good choices, so is water.  Do you have a dog?  Take the dog for a walk.  Go exercise and get yourself more attention!! :)