Another one bites the dust!

OUCH! My g/f of 10 yrs has decided to end our relationship. 2 days before V-day. OK so I should be torn apart and yet, I feel free.

OK am I numb or relived? Still trying to figure it out.

Hmmm..I'm not sure! When my ex-husband and I split I felt relieved and have been since! I was finally FREE and able to be myself again. So I guess it really depends on your relationship.

I know when my ex wife and I split it was tough at first, but then I realized how unhappy we both were for the last year of our relationship. We were "going through the motions of happiness."

I definately feel for you sweetie. I'm sure there are going to be a lot of changes going on soon. Just make sure to keep talking to your friends and family and don't let anything get bottled up.

If you need to talk we're all here

(((((((((((HUG))))))))))))  I am sorry for your 10 year relationship ending, I am sure the thoughts and emotions are flowing in 20 different ways!

I hope this becomes a wonderful new and exciting beginning for you!

I imagine you are gonna feel a lot of different things, sometimes all at once. But I am so glad that free is there so early in the process.

When I go through times of transition like that, I try to remember that I have been presented with an opportunity to recreate my life. What a great time to make decisions about what YOU want to have in your life and make them happen.

Z

I have learned that relief and grief can and do exist often in the same moment just as can joy and pain in the same heart. And that all of the various emotions you feel are fluid. Allow them to come as they will, when they choose. Don't push them away nor cling to them. They are the waves that come to clean away the old and make room for the new.

Some of what you may feel at the same time of relief that what has not been ideal is no longer, is the sadness for what could have been... remembering the dreams of the future at the beginning. It is not worthwhile to get lost in the what if's or the if only's. But stay present with what is, allow yourself to feel all of what you feel without judgement and know that nothing is permanent.

Okay, done with the Zen... I'm sorry for your loss and happy for your gain.

*HUGE BEAR HUGS*  I'm sorry that happened to you but i do have to say that now that I'm post op I deal with rejection SO MUCH BETTER now.........i think mainly in the back of my mind I know i can get another LOL  Just gotta work that milkshake again hon :)

Thank you everyone. I've been hibernating for the last few days, trying to find my own way. V-day was tough as was my birthday (yesterday). She and I are still communicating (text, fb and email) but she decided to run away when she asked me "What's wrong" and my reply was

"oh nothing just that you broke up with me - other than that I'm fine...." Sure, I was being a tad sarcastic but I'm human. I have feelings and we were expressing freely.

Let's be friends  - this is something I don't know if I will be able to do. I'm sure others have done it but I'm to raw right now.

I've been journaling and trying to put my mind in the right place. I have to be true to me and think of myself for a change. I'm worthy of being loved. I know eventually this too shall pass.

Again, Thank you all for your kind words.


B