Issues

I am struggling with my own head these days.  I know the weightloss is good, but in some ways I feel fatter than I was before just because everything is so......soft.  I have always been firm, athletic.  Never jiggly or soft.  Its hard.  I was in a club this weekend, and there was someone there I have some personal issues with, and I realized, I am not able to hold my own in a fight anymore, I had better be nice.  That is not a good feeling for me.  I have always liked the fact that a little bit of fear of me is a good thing.  Thankfully no one knows they probably dont need to be worried anymore, I hope I can live on my former strength for a good long while, at least until this muscle fatigue is kicked....LOL.   I am still fat in my head, I wonder when that changes?  A good topic for the therapist this week....

Oh, Barb, you hit a chord with me on this one.  

It seems like the first thing I lost was the density of my fat.  While I was once a very solid person, the only way I can describe my fat now is flabby.  I definitely feel like I jiggle more than I used to, and the "softness" of my body can be very disturbing to me when I'm used to to feeling a very different way.

On the plus side Barb, what I've noticed is the "solid" fat turns to "flabby" fat shortly before you start losing inches from that area.  My upper chest and legs turned flabby first, and then started reducing in size.  Then it happened to my lower torso and belly, and I've been noticing those areas reducing in size now.

Nothing scientific here, but I definitely think the "soft" fat is a precursor to actual weight loss.

Oh lord, I hope you are right.   My consistancy has been compared to a microbead pillow.  The Partner just arranges it how she likes and goes to sleep on my belly!  ACK!!!!

I hear ya girl! I used to have firm fat, now I am just soft. I hate it! I would love to go dancing but I am scared to see how much I jiggle. Not that I want another man, but how can I get a guy's eye (cause I think I look hot now and would love to be able to do that since I never have unless he was into big women) if I stop dancing and my body keeps going for another 30 seconds.

In a word - Spanx! Then only you and your partner know what jiggles.
The head trip part I have no advice.

It has taken me a while to not having a "fat in the head feeling".  I think it probably started to set in about 15 months out.  I have been wearing a medium/10 for about 8 months now.  Still when I look in the mirror I don't look thin, but people tell me I am skinny. 

Now  I am waiting to start gaining the pregnancy pounds.   It should look great with the loose skin, but worth it in the end.

Remember that your power comes not from what people see but what they feel. As you continue to be successful, this will translate into more personal power and confidence.

I think it takes a long time (at least a year or more) for our psyche to catch up with our physical changes.

I understand about the softness. I got lots of softness but I agree that this changes as you continue to lose and build muscle. I think it also depends on your age. I'm 53 and there is not enough lifetime left for me to exercise enough for all this loose skin to tighten up. I'm saving my pennies for plastics... and you know the first place I'm starting... not my belly and not my arm... nope... my face. The rest... the tube sock tits I can enhance with Victoria's Secret, and the butt and tummy with Spanx (oh yeah!) and the arms I can cover if I need to but the face is just out there. LOL

And it's true I may never be able to afford plasstic but I have to keep believing that I will and saving what little I can each month. Of course at this rate, I'll be undergoing my nip/tuck around the age of 92. LOL But hell, at least I'm going to have a better chance of living that long.

BTW... you don't need to fight anyway girlfriend. Playing nice is always better, hard or soft. (HUGS)