The 1st day of "T"

Hey Ya'll (I felt like digging in to my life in the south),

I wanted to say "thanks a million" to every one supporting myself and my wifeband in her quest to be a man.

We called up our nurse (who happens to be a personal friend).  Needless to say, she had me shoot up KJ in her butt.  We were warned of KJ's emotional swings and aggression.  That will be strange.  Not to sound like the alpha dog, but  I am used to running the show, so it will be strange for KJ to actually show some aggression or anger.  We are supposed to log everything.  Should be interesting and exciting and emotional and a journey of the "different".  I am looking forward to this journey with her.  I still do not know my stance on being with a "man", but I am sure I will figure it out.

Sounds like you're in for an interesting ride!  Hope all goes well. 

Hi Sommer... yes, it is an interesting ride. While Z is not transitioning, we have a number of friends who have and are.

One thing I'd like to say, from a femme point of view is that you are not going to be with a "man". Well, yes and no. You will be with KJ who will not be different but will be more of who he truly is... once the transition is more complete and he's through puberty. This hormonal time is best to be viewed as puberty. He will turn into a 14 year old boy with all the hormone driven behaviors, implusivness, anger, acne (usually), high libido (watch out), and frustrations. He will feel insecure as does any 14 year old boy and will need all of your support and love and understanding. Do know, he will come out the other side. He will be a man just as he always has been inside but now his outside will match.

The big difference is that he was not born male and didn't have the male socialization. This is both negative and positive. He has and will continue to have all the best of both worlds. It's what I love best about our transmen. They have a depth that I don't find in the run-of-the-mill straight men but all the best male qualities as well.

The best advice I can offer at this point is during this next year, don't take anything personally! After a while he will settle into his new chemistry and body changes. Also if the side effects are moving too fast and he's suffering too much of the 14-year-old side effects, talk to the nurse and suggest backing off on the dose a little bit. Many guys go gun-ho and jack themself way the hell up too much.

Big hugs to you! He's lucky to have you!

P.S. I realized I used the male pronouns. I hope that's okay?

Good luck to both of you Sommer, I wish the two of you all the best!!!
XXXOOO

Good luck with all the emotional stuff Sommer. Just remember to try to talk things out with KJ so she knows where you stand during all of this. (Like I need to tell you that.) I am always here if you need a listening ear.

Good Luck !!!!!  I give it to ya. Support your baby 110% at ALL times. I'm here if ya need to chat

Yeah, another Charlotte person!