Cool, a place just for us!

My partner is having a little difficulty with my changed eating structure and abilities and has been depressed.  She first had to deal with my extreme anxiety immediately after I had my surgery and now seems to be going through something herself.  Is there a support type of group for her here on Obesity help?
Glad to finally feel I belong some where.
10/23/08 RNY Minneapolis, MN

Yes this big step you are taking effects her alot too.
She probably worries about how you will change when you are thinner.

She can try this forum http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/spouses_of_wls_patients/

I feel for you.. My partner and I are STILL going through it off and on. Is your partner a larger girl? Mine is and that is part of why it is difficult.

My partner is smaller but can eat like a horse and I think it bothers her that I can't anymore plus I do think she is worried about what will happen when I lose.  We have been together for almost 14 years and she has seen my overweight for the majority of that time, eating whatever I wanted.
Thank you for your post. The responses are helping

Wow 14 years. That is a lot of foundation that's been built...

My hubby had issues and still has some when he wants to eat at places and I can't because there is nothing I can eat at places. I do cave in once in a while and get Italian (usually ravioli) so he is happy. Like Anne said there is a spouses forum on here. Hope things work out.

My partner I had when I had my surgery was VERY supportive of me but constantly said I was going to leave her when I got thinner because of all the things she had done to me (cheated, mean, etc). It did end up happening because someone came in the picture, however that is now over and my ex and I are living together again because we raised her daughter together for 2 years and I really cant afford everything on my own because we got in a lot of credit card debt so she is helping me with the bills now. We arent back together even though she wants to be...and I dont know if we ever will be but we are still best friends.  I got with my ex when our daughter was 5 months old so shes basically my daughter as well, in my heart she is mine even if not biologically.

Typically that happens even if the other partner is smaller, they think if you lose weight more people will hit on you, etc and you will end up leaving.

Thanks for your response.  She is very supportive of me now but I can tell she is stressed out about it.  I try not to talk about it too much to stress her out more on the times that I am stressed.  I used to be the one who ate alot and now she is though she is very healthy and active and thin.  I bring up alot of the times now that I already can do things with her again like go hiking or walking or x-country skiing and I think that makes her happier.
Good luck with your situation.  That certainly sounds stressful!