I look sickly? HUH?

I had the pleasure of seeing my ex-husbands family over the Holidays. It was a brief encounter thankfully. But they haven't seen me in 2 years. They knew I had the surgery and even he told them I was lookin' good.

The first thing his Mother said to me was "You've lost too much, your face is too skinny" ...and according to him his cousin said I looked pale and sickly.

I'm going to associate 99% of this as jealousy and bitterness towards me - they've always been this way but I'm actually questioning this.

I weigh 154 - which too me is NOT that bad! It's a comfortable weight for ME. I know I look a whole hell of a lot better than when I weighed 285, but now I can't stop looking at pictures or checking the mirror. Is it possible to lose TOO much???

Remember that most of us lose more of our early weight, proportionately, from our face than the rest of our bodies.  I've heard that it can take a few years of weight maintenance for everything to "redistribute".

So, someone who's always been "normal" won't look as thin as someone who has just reached that same point thanks to WLS.

/Steve

Does the doc think you are okay?  My doc said I should get down in the 130s and I thought was was way too small, but I am only 5"3.  I think you look great and hell yeah you should check yourself out!!  I am sure they are a bit bitter.

Obviously I'm preop so I don't know but when I first talked to my Bariatric Coordinator, he asked me what my goal weight was. I told him 180 would make me happy. He told me that 150 would be my ideal. My jaw about dropped. I could get to that? Wow...

Anyway, he went on to tell me that some people can go too far with things, just like anything else. If I were you, I'd check your BMI and see what kind of range you're in. If it's good, then laugh what they said off and give yourself props for makin them jealous.  

I get this ALL the time, and still of plenty of cushion for the pushin,...

My support group gave me the best advice EVER. These people are used to seeing us a certain way. When we lose a lot of weight fast (or they see us for the first time since the major weight loss) they are not USED to seeing us this thin, therefore we appear "thin & Sickly", all that matters is what your doctors opinion is. They will look at your weightloss in a clinical manner.

Don't let 'em get to ya...

I have a couple of friends that have had the surgery and they do look sickly or have lost too much...everyone is not meant to be a size 3..I think its where u feel comfy at  I think u look nice

Yeah! What they all said. I think you look great. If you are in your goal range or still headed to there, just figure it's their green eyed monsters talking and let it go.

You look lovely..let it roll off. People don't get this type of thing at all.

It all depends on your height and build. I will NEVER be a size 4. I know this and it was never an expectation of mine. I have been called skinny recently and I don't see it since I am 189 BUT I am almost 5'7" and a larger build. It's all how you feel and think you look. If you think you are looking too skinny then you might be.

girl...we all go through a phase where we have a head that looks like a crack baby...it evens out over time...(if you have a crack baby head...you must be doing something right)