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on 11/20/08 12:05 pm - Slapout, AL
on 11/20/08 12:05 pm - Slapout, AL
excuse the terrible typing. i wanted to introduce myself, my name is kimberly and i live just outside of montgomery alabama. i am currently single after a very long relationship that ended terribly because i had wls. has anyone had a partner who became jealous of you after weight loss?
kimberly
kimberly
Ok, so wow....that's just crazy. I haven't had my surgery yet so obviously my experience wasn't the exact same. I did, however, have a relationship end partially because of everything that I'm going through to get the surgery done. She had a bunch of stress and then I had a bunch of stress and well, yea. Just went downhill from there.
I'm so sorry that's happened to you, but it will be ok. Obviously she wasn't as ready for the changes that you were going through as you were and it made her insecure. It's always hard to lose a long term relationship for any reason, but the good news is you're getting better physically and emotionally!
I've always said they're 3 sexes - men, women, and southern women. We do things so passionately (including things that don't make much sense sometimes) that it kind of puts us in our own category. Anyone who doesn't believe me, come down to Louisiana and I'll show you what I mean.
If you ever wanna talk, PM me. It's good to vent.
I'm so sorry that's happened to you, but it will be ok. Obviously she wasn't as ready for the changes that you were going through as you were and it made her insecure. It's always hard to lose a long term relationship for any reason, but the good news is you're getting better physically and emotionally!
I've always said they're 3 sexes - men, women, and southern women. We do things so passionately (including things that don't make much sense sometimes) that it kind of puts us in our own category. Anyone who doesn't believe me, come down to Louisiana and I'll show you what I mean.
If you ever wanna talk, PM me. It's good to vent.
I often wonder about my partner. She has made comments like "you'll lose all that weight and leave me". But I have lost it all for the most part and we are still together. She is a heavier woman herself and I think she was comfortable with us both being big ...but little does she know, I'm not attracted to skinny women so she is all set 
Sorry you had to go through that! And welcome to the best place on OH :)
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Sorry to hear about the breakup. I know my hubby is having issues since he likes big women (I mean come on we met in a chatroom for BBW's) and I am getting smaller. I tend to remind him I am the same person (low maintnance and all the things he loved about me before) as I was pre-op. I do know I have changed since I don't take the crap from his Mom as much. Good luck with the new life.
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Kimberly,
First off - welcome to the board - it is a great group of people! I am sorry to hear about your break up but I had a similar problem of jealousy and we ended up breaking up. My gf was skinny and could eat anything. So it was not a jealous issue of me being smaller. When I had WLS everything was good but all the sudden when we would go out and people (strangers and people we knew) would come up to us (me) she did not like it at all! She hated the attention that I got from men or women. It got to be the point where she hated and almost refused to go out..... which unfortunatly I don't want to sit at home anymore - I want to enjoy life to the fullest!!! I never gave her any reason to be jealous, I honestly loved her but I went out - mostly with my "breeder" friends but I was still going out and having fun! Some people change, I have see it but I always tried to keep myself in "check" - I have asked my friends and family if I have changed and they all said no.... I liked the person I was so my personality should not have changed because my weight had change. I have always been pretty conservative and still am. I don't wear the revealing clothes, I don't drink like a sailor, I am not a sex crazy person as I have seen with so many. I just enjoy people and having great conversations. Oh and a little two steppin'... but hey, I am a cowgirl so what can I say!
We ended up almost strangers because our lives had gone in different directions. We are friends now and hopefully we can remain friends but she does not want to hear about me going out or even dating so it is kind of an odd relationship..... but I am trying. We had over 5 years together.
I am sorry if you are hurting and wish you the best.... if you ever want to talk, please PM me - I do understand where you are coming from!
Valerie :)
First off - welcome to the board - it is a great group of people! I am sorry to hear about your break up but I had a similar problem of jealousy and we ended up breaking up. My gf was skinny and could eat anything. So it was not a jealous issue of me being smaller. When I had WLS everything was good but all the sudden when we would go out and people (strangers and people we knew) would come up to us (me) she did not like it at all! She hated the attention that I got from men or women. It got to be the point where she hated and almost refused to go out..... which unfortunatly I don't want to sit at home anymore - I want to enjoy life to the fullest!!! I never gave her any reason to be jealous, I honestly loved her but I went out - mostly with my "breeder" friends but I was still going out and having fun! Some people change, I have see it but I always tried to keep myself in "check" - I have asked my friends and family if I have changed and they all said no.... I liked the person I was so my personality should not have changed because my weight had change. I have always been pretty conservative and still am. I don't wear the revealing clothes, I don't drink like a sailor, I am not a sex crazy person as I have seen with so many. I just enjoy people and having great conversations. Oh and a little two steppin'... but hey, I am a cowgirl so what can I say!
We ended up almost strangers because our lives had gone in different directions. We are friends now and hopefully we can remain friends but she does not want to hear about me going out or even dating so it is kind of an odd relationship..... but I am trying. We had over 5 years together.
I am sorry if you are hurting and wish you the best.... if you ever want to talk, please PM me - I do understand where you are coming from!
Valerie :)
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on 11/21/08 9:29 am - Slapout, AL
on 11/21/08 9:29 am - Slapout, AL
thanks guys for the replies. a friend on the rr board suggested this board. i'm glad she did. this is the kind of stuff i have to look forward to on my home state board
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/AL/a,messageboard/action,r eplies/board_id,4803/cat_id,4403/topic_id,3791023/
not exactly gay friendly or tolerant. alabama is not exactly the best place to be gay. the rr board is fun but it gets too wild for even me.
kimberly
Hi Kimberly:
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My partner and I are still together, but it has been a rough road. We both were in the program for WLS, but after I had mine she changed her mind. Since I do all the cooking, her eating habits have changed since my surgery and I am getting her butt up at 5:30 with me to hit the gym. But her weight loss is obviously slower.
Anyway.. She is now asking often if I am going to leave her for someone skinny, or saying "Are you going to lose anymore weight? I think you are to skinny already.." and various other things... So we will see if we can work it out.
Welcome to the best board ever, and don't ever hesitate to ask for help!
Take care,
Heather
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My partner and I are still together, but it has been a rough road. We both were in the program for WLS, but after I had mine she changed her mind. Since I do all the cooking, her eating habits have changed since my surgery and I am getting her butt up at 5:30 with me to hit the gym. But her weight loss is obviously slower.
Anyway.. She is now asking often if I am going to leave her for someone skinny, or saying "Are you going to lose anymore weight? I think you are to skinny already.." and various other things... So we will see if we can work it out.
Welcome to the best board ever, and don't ever hesitate to ask for help!
Take care,
Heather
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