i think y'all *might* have misunderstood

when i talked about my support system, i didn't mean emotional support. i meant PHYSICAL support. as in, if i get into a car wreck or something equally as horrifying... who's going to pick my daughter up from school? or, if my daughter has some really bad sinus/allergy stuff going on (she has really bad asthma and is prone to bronchitis and pneumonia and stuff like that) who's going to keep her while i work if my family is so far away?

and i'm not trying to make excuses. i'm just trying to figure this all out and to work out all the holes in my plan before i actually take any action.

also, *if* i were to just pick up and leave... how would i go about doing this? i really value y'all's opinions and i sincerely hope that i haven't stepped on any toes here. but these are real problems that i'm facing and the cause of my inaction. i really hope that someone ~ anyone has a solution and/or a valid suggestion for me because i just can't get past these issues.

Monday, don't fall into the "paralysis by analysis" trap.  Listen to what your gut says.  It usually doesn't lie.

i'm just trying to be a responsible parent and to consider all the "what if's". it would be extremely wrong of me to NOT think of these things and to NOT have a plan in place. (and did i mention that i'm a virgo? i'm very practical which tends to get in the way at times.)

oh and how's this for irony? two days before my job ends and i have bronchitis, possibly pneumonia. great. just ******g great

I completely understand.  I, too, am a Virgo.  That's how I know you can over think a thing. 

Just do your research on the area you are possibly interested in moving to.  See what's available as far as child care is concerned.  Do you have friends or family in some of these areas you are considering??? 

I'm not saying it will be easy, but it just may be what you need to get moving in the direction you want your life to be going.

no actually, ALL of my family is either in north alabama or pensacola, florida (and there aren't any jobs for *me* in either of these places.) the ones that i'm looking at are quite a number of states away (like, 10-12 hours away from where we are right now.)

Not to sound *****y, but it kind of sounds like you've already thought through what is best for you and your daughter and have already made the decision to stay put.  I'm not sure why there needs to be a discussion on what "other" people would do in your shoes, as everybody's situation(s) are different.   Unless you are looking for validation from others that you're making the right decision, and only you can know that for sure.   (P.S.  Sorry you're sick your last few days at your job, but you can turn that into an infectious positive, as well.  Spend a lot of time around the office of your soon to be ex-boss and make sure not to cover your mouth when you cough.  :-)

um, bronchitis isn't contagious...

and the reason i'm asking for other people's opinions is that i HAVE thought things through and i seem to be coming up against a brick wall. sometimes when you're too close to a situation things can become overwhelming and i just needed outside input. i'm trying to work through the holes and figure things out. these are my obstacles. i'm just trying to lay it out there and find a SOLUTION to these obstacles.

the only question I have is.. There doesn't seem to be a choice. You can't get  a job where you are, so therefore it just isn't feasible to live there. Hel***** help, it won't be much help if you can't work, right?

And trust me, like I have said before, from one single Mom to another. You make it work. We always do.