OH MY GOSH................................... HAVE BEEN ASKED ON A DATE???

Holly CR_ _ !!!!! I got asked out on a date..  What do I do???? As we know gay men especially gay men who are attracted to us well BIG BOYS are particular about what they like. Today I got a voice mail MSG from a guy who just broke up with his BF of 10 years in July. Has no idea that I am going toward this surgery and wants to go out on a DATE????????????????? With ME???????????? NOW????  
So do I go and hope that he is interested in "ME" and doesnt care what I look like (Probably not) and tell him some where in the middle of the evening after he's had a few ****tails,That there are about to be a few changes .  Or do I tell him now and give him an easy less embarrassing and cheep way out. (Im not a cheep date) What do you all think??

As wonderful as it feels to get asked out on a date.  I think being up front about your weight loss would be best.  As you say som of the Boys are particular!  Good luck~Ann~

It sounds like it is some one you have known for awhile. I say go to dinner have a good time let him get to know you. If you are looking for someone that is going to last he should be falling for more than the "BIG BOY" on the outside and what is on the inside, after all in 30 years none of us are going to be the same on the outside. I know a lot of people just go for the cover, but its inside the cover where the heart is. Go be yourself, fill him in on your plans for wls and just enjoy yourself!

Jeff

Yes he's someone I have known for a while someone who wanted to date me while he was with his former BF. (HEs HOT) But, I dont do that. So I turned him down as told him if he was ever free to give me a call... I may actually go who says its going to become perminate.. He is kind of deep,, so maybe it wont matter but.

How great to be asked on  date! I think you should go if you are attracted to the man and think you two will have a good time together. Since he just broke up from a 10 year relationship, I would not read a lot into his intentions. Go and enjoy the evening. I am open about my surgery. During your normal dinner conversation, I would just mention what you are planning to do. It will be a good test to see how interested he is in your life and knowing more about you. Let us know what you do and how it turns out.  -- Tom

Go for it! Enjoy. Doesn't have to be any more than dinner, does it?

Unless you think this guy has long-term romantic intentions, I don't see why your decision to have WLS really matters one way or the other; at LEAST this conversation could be put off until a later date!  Anyway, if he's like most guys he probably wants to **** right away and might not care so much about events down the road.   Hell, even avowed chubby chasers usually don't lose interest until you've lost a good deal of weight!

/Steve

Go and have a great time, and be honest. The WLS is something very important to you, and it is also a part of who you are. I'm sure things will be fine...good luck!

Ya know, I would go and just enjoy myself. If a second date comes then I would mention the upcoming WLS. You did say he was kinda deep so he might not be a looks only guy.

if your THAT attracted to him. why not GO???!!  Hell Talk to him about what is happening in your life.. its Great Date conversation.. and IF during the course of the date you find out your not compatable.. or you WONT BE once you have surgery.. well then you still had a Nice Date..
and the Guy's a Shallow JERK.. so you didnt want him in your life anyway..
and if he accepts it.. and is ok with it.. well.. i dont see anything Negative about that at ALL!!!!