Can family and/or partners come to Psych appointments?

I'm in an awkward relationship, and we have some issues. I was wondering if me and my "boyfriend" can sit and talk to my psych, or are these appointments just for me?

Ya know, I have no idea. I do know that my eval covered lots of things that I wasn't ready to reveal to the hubby since he wasn't listening to me at the time. We are in therapy now and he is getting an ear-full. LOL Just remember everyone you DO marry his or her family and not just one person. UGH! If you do feel comfy with the psych you are using you can make additional appointments and drag the "boyfriend" in.

Call your doctor's office and ask.  Your pre-WLS psych eval is really to talk about your relationship and issues with food.  So your doctor's office may prefer that it's just you at the appointment, so they can adequately assess your food issues.  And they may suggest that, if you have issues with your "boyfriend" that may affect your success w/ WLS, that you see a separate counselor to work on those issues.  Whether you seek out a counselor or not, I'd encourage you and your "boyfriend" to start talking about whatever issues you have, and start working on them now.  My recent experience tells me that it's a very bad idea to ignore things and hope they will just get better over time; didn't work out so well for me... 

Good luck as you continue your pre-op activities -

Kellie

I realize my first appointment is just for me, but I was wondering if there was a way for him and I to talk to someone. I have been reading so much about couples separating after one of them has WLS. My relationship is an odd one. We got together on the rebound from other people, and we stay together so neither of us are lonely. He accepts me for who I really am, and he supports me 100%. I just don't want any problems after surgery. He was the one that actually asked about coming along with me to a psych appointment...

It sounds like you might benefit from couples' counseling which a counselor or social worker can do. Does your insurance give you a list for mental health or behavioral health service providers? Call and interview them over the phone. If they won't talk to you for five minutes, they are not for  you.

Connie 

Thank you Connie..I'll check my insurance and see what they provide.

I wouldn't cloud the issue. He would probably not be able to even go in the office if he went with you. They have a certain amount of time to cover specific preop assessment stuff.

Let the eval person know that you and your 'support person' are looking into seeing a counselor together because you are aware there are issues. They might be able to refer you and it sounds soooo self-aware.

Hey, well your 1st psych appointment it has to be just you, its a time for you to talk about your life, and having him there could jeapordize what you say and what your comfortable saying in front of him, im sure at a later time they would allow him to come in, or even after you have talked to her, have him come in and sit with you... I know my psych would allow that , but when you 1st talk its just for you .... GL

Thank you Bridget..I think you are right. Having him or anyone else there with me would  most likely jeopardize what I say. I was talking to him over the weekend about talking with someone before my surgery because I really feel we need to, but he doesn't think we need to. He feels that our issues are our own and we can deal with them ourselves. I don't think we can, so I told him that if he refuses to get help before my surgery, than if something happens between him and I after..it may be too late then to save what we have...he still said no. So, I guess time will tell...

If he is being like that now, I would drop him like a hat, go into surgery with the help of ur family and friends, get ur life back on track for you, and find someone better down the road who understands what it takes to make a relationship work!!!