Might be moving to Mississippi - need insight

My partner and I may be moving to Mississippi for family reasons and need insight as to how it is to be gay in the south. We are bi-racial (black/white) to top off any other issues and are worried about my daughter (10-white) and ourselves as we look at the prospect. If anyone can shed light on the "climate" there I would greatly appreciate it! We are looking at Clinton as a place of residence as my daughter's cousins/my niece and nephew live there and we hope that will ease the transition for her. The south and some of the conservative views scare us - but we have been encouraged by some thoughts from the gay community on the coast. Unfortuantely, we realize the coast is more liberal than that of the targeted community we are entering... HELP???? Thanks to any who have thoughts! Shelley

Good luck!

Thanks Kathy!

It might make sense to talk to your niece & nephew's parents and feel them out about local attitudes. Also, there's an organization called "The Family Equality Council" (http://www.familyequality.org) which is an advocacy group for gay and lesbian families. I'm betting they can help with stategies and information. Admitedly, you are not moving into one of the more progressive places in the country, but people often surprise you. Good luck and please keep in touch to let us know how you and your family are doing. BTW, when are you planning to move?

Hi Joanne - Thanks for the resource - we are getting them wherever we can! I am hopeful we will find a good support system in the area. The word is there are gay couples but everyone is politely quiet about it. I haven't been in the closet for years - and can't imagine changing. It will bit quite a challenge for us - but they say that is how we grow right? Thanks for your support. We are looking to move at the beginning of 2009 - we have to check with lawyers on custody issues, do our research, and sell a house - - fun fun fun! I'll keep you guys updated! Shelley

Hi Shelly, I'm originally from Savannah GA.. and up until 3 years ago..was living in Atlanta.. During that time.. i found out some amazing things.. very FEW people have an issue with Homosexuality... for instance.. I was living in atlanta.. and had a job in the city and i got discriminated against.. but when i moved 40 miles OUT SIDE of atlanta to the burbs.. and was working just a few miles away.. Essentially Country.. the people there were Completly open to it.. Men and Women alike.. i couldnt believe it.. i'm in RURAL GEORGIA.. and not ONE person that i worked with.. had an issue with my homosexuality.. and Trust me when i say.. i couldnt Hide it even if i tried.. !! So Chin Up.. not sure what or if it depends on anything.. some times living in a city.. means closer to more Fanatical people and their Religious beliefs.. where as Country folk are very plain and simple.. and usually respectful as long as you dont shove it down their throat.. I hope that helps! Good Luck on your move.. Bear Huggz..

David you are so sweet! I needed the "Bear Hug" - You are right - sometimes the city brings the fanatics! We are hopeful to stay away from them by choosing a more rural life. Thank you for sharing your experience. I really appreciate the hope for a positive experience! It could be good for our family to be a part of a larger group (my extended family) and to have our daughter closer to her cousins, grandparents, etc. Besides - raising kids in LA is a trip I don't want to take if possible! Again thank you! Shelley

My wife, our 9-year-old daughter, and I live in rural Texas and we have not experienced any discrimination whatsoever. 'Course, we live outside of Austin, the most liberal city in Texas. That could explain it. Or, it could be that I don't tolerate that kind of BS, LOL. Sharyn nurse2b

I am familiar with Austin and agree- you are in a rather progressive area for Texas! I am happy that you guys have had positive experiences! My parents used to live in Roundrock. I am with you on the "don't tolerate that kind of BS" that is our mindset as well - but my brother tells me that straight forward mentality isn't accepted well in the south - it is avoid conflict at all costs... however - we might have to shake things up a bit. - As we always say - don't start none - there won't be none.... Thanks for your support! Shelley

Well, good luck with the move and all. Give people the benefit of the doubt and they will surprise you. Sharyn nurse2b